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datingtips101 — Sat, 05 Mar 2011 02:51:22 CST

Vin DiCarlo

Ten years ago, Vin DiCarlo couldn't get a date... a phone number... or even get over his nerves long enough to say, "hi" to a beautiful woman.

He skipped his high school prom, so he didn't have to invite anyone... in order to avoid getting shot down. And at the very lowest point in his life, Vin DiCarlo spent three years living out of the back of his van. (He was working as a janitor at the time)

One day, Vin DiCarlo just said, "Enough!" and decided to get over his fear. Suffering through three straight years of rejection after rejection, Vin DiCarlo eventually figured out what it took to attract women and build self-confidence... even though he's not good looking, he's average height and build, and most women call him 'odd' when they first meet him.

And for the past seven years, Vin DiCarlo has been inventing, testing and writing down new ways to build your self confidence and attract beautiful women. While Vin's adamant about trying every single technique thousands of times himself before he teaches it to anyone... he does serve a wide group of men, of all ages and from all walks of life:

SELF-CONFIDENCE

In order to master any skill set - and Vin DiCarlo believes meeting women is a skill any man can learn - Vin noticed you need to have self-confidence. The more self-confidence you have, the easier it is to perform any skill. Whether it's cooking a meal, performing a guitar solo or talking to a beautiful woman.

So, Vin DiCarlo has developed a simple system to build self-confidence. Tested against the toughest conditions in the world (it's been battle tested by US soldiers in Afghanistan and Iraq) this self-confidence system is now taught to men interested in performing better in their professional and personal lives.

RELATIONSHIPS

Since Vin DiCarlo's main fear was talking to women, he's devoted an entire decade of his life to figuring out what makes women tick. This lead Vin to become the first man alive to discover the 8 different types of women (a find certified by a top Harvard Ph.D psychologist, using mental-technology verified and used by Bank of America, Yale University, the US Army & Navy, among many others.)

And because of this ground-breaking discovery, his system, Pandora's Box, has become the most widely used relationship-engineering technology available to men in the last few years. With over 3,000% more men using this proven, battle tested system than some of Vin DiCarlo's top competitors. When asked why, most reply, "because it works."

SUCCESS

If you would've asked Vin DiCarlo what his goals were when he started meeting women, he would've answered, "To meet women, and to shed my fear." Obviously, as you've just read above, he succeeded in spades.

However, the greatest successes are often created by accident...

Because Vin DiCarlo's systems, techniques and advice haven't only given self-confidence and successful relationships to over five hundred thousand men across the globe in the past ten years, his same systems have been used to build professional and personal success, as well. The powerful combination of self-confidence, inter-personal success and spiritual growth his students experience often puts them in better positions, financially.

When asked to comment on his success in 2011, Vin DiCarlo simply said, "My goal is and always has been to empower men from around the world to take control of their lives, and help them develop self-confidence, success with women and success in other areas of their lives, as well. And so far, our mission has been wildly successful."

Interested in learning more? Or seeing how Vin DiCarlo's ideas can improve your life, your self-confidence and your success with women?

Start here, with his breakthrough discovery of the 8 types of women.

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The Right Way To Play Hard To Get

Anonymous — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 20:05:09 CST

I hate when women play "hard to get"

Hate. Hate. HATE it.

Well, at least after I'm intrigued
because I can't have her...

And after I think about her at
least ten to twenty times per
day...

Finally, I start to hate her
after I decide I really like
her...

... Then I make my move, or let
her know, and she tells me I'm
"just not her type" and she
"doesn't want to ruin our
friendship"

THAT'S when I hate her playing
"hard to get"

But the brutal truth is:

Playing "Hard To Get WORKS"

And it works just as well for
men, as it does for women.

Because women are ADDICTED to
a little know human emotion
called "Intrigue"

"Intrigue" is the funny feeling
you have when someone stops to
take a drink mid-sentence...

... And you can't wait for them
to finish it.

And Intrigue is the reason
you still watch a TV show,
once it comes back from a
commercial break.

It's also the SECOND BIGGEST
emotion in romance novels.
Right behind sexual tension.

That's why women eat those tiny
books up by the MILLIONS per
year!

(You can learn how to master
both Intrigue AND Sexual Tension
in the Dominant Sexual Power
program, which you can learn
more about here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

Intrigue is also the main emotion
YOU feel, when a woman is playing
"hard to get"

Have you ever thought to yourself,
"I wonder what she's doing?"

or

"I wonder what it's like to be
with her?"

or even

"I wonder if she's hooking up
with some OTHER guy, right now?"

Those questions are ALL questions
you ask yourself when you're
INTRIGUED by another person.

And those are the questions you
can make HER think to herself,
if you learn how to play
"hard to get" the RIGHT way.

Using INTRIGUE.

So here's my three step guide
to creating Intrigue in any
woman you meet:

************************
HOW TO PLAY HARD TO GET
THE "RIGHT" WAY:
USING INTRIGUE
************************

***************************
STEP ONE: GET HER ATTENTION
***************************

This part's the easiest and
the hardest, at the same time.

Because once you know what
you're doing, you will auto-
matically get women's
attention without even
realizing it.

(In fact, both step one and
two are extremely easy. And
you can master them in just
a few minutes per day)

The DIFFICULTY here is learning
how to get the RIGHT kind of
attention from a woman.

Because you can get two types
of attention from a woman:

1) The RIGHT kind.

She knows your name, and notices
your face.

She sees you as a potential
boyfriend.

And she's excited to be near you,
whenever you're around.

Or.. You can get...

2) The WRONG kind.

She either doesn't know who
you are (you mix into the
crowd too much)... Or she
doesn't even like you!

She sees you like a friend
or companion. Even worse,
she can't imagine you
having sex with her
at all!

And she'd rather blow you off
than miss a date with the guy
she just met last week.

HERE'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
THE TWO TYPES OF ATTENTION:

Women notice the WRONG GUY
because of something he
DOES.

Women notice the RIGHT GUY
because of something he
IS.

Did you catch that? Let me
clarify quickly:

When you say something or
do something extreme, people
are going to notice you.

For example: If you pop a
balloon in a crowded room,
everyone's going to quickly
look your way.

And you're going to get lots
of attention.

Unfortunately, some of those
people are going to be scared.

Some are going to be pissed
off.

And nearly NO ONE will be MORE
interested in who you are
as a man.

So think back to a time when
you met a real, cool guy.

Did he say anything "profound"
to catch your attention?

Did he do something "unique"
or "crazy" in any way?

Probably not.

He probably "carried" himself
a certain way.

Which is just a fancy way of
saying:

"He was a confident guy who
made me want to know more
about him"

THIS is the attention you
want.

You want attention built on
WHO YOU ARE... Not WHAT YOU
DO.

I've devoted dozens of emails
to that topic. So you can
either sift through your
inbox for a few of them...

Or, you can wait a few weeks
until I write another newsletter
around this topic...

Or you can claim your copy
of The Attraction Code and
learn how this attractive
guy gets attention based on
who he IS, tonight.

Your choice. And you can
find The Attraction Code,
here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

Once you have the right
kind of attention, it's
time to move on to
step two...

***************************
STEP TWO: GIVE HER A "HOOK"
***************************

This is the same as saying,
"Make her INTERESTED as you"

It's just like fishing, which
is why I called it a 'hook':

First, you throw the bait to
the fish.

(In our case, you become an
attractive man with dominant
thoughts which cause her to
notice you the second she
sees you)

Second, she bites and gets
STUCK on the 'hook'

(In our case, you two start
talking and she gets 'hooked'
on a topic of conversation)

Third - and finally - You
do the intricate dance of
reeling 'her' in.

Let's talk about 'hooking'
for a second.

And let's drop the term
'hooking' once and for
all, because it only
serves it's purpose
to give you a visual
image.

A more accurate term would be
"generating Intrigue" or in
laymen's terms: "Intriguing"
her.

Now the wheels start turning,
don't they? I can practically
see you making the connection.

You start to feel the energy
and emotions you have associated
with the word "Intriguing"

And you should definitely notice
that these emotions are HIGHLY
sexual.

Because - and especially for women -
Something "intriguing" and mysterious
has a sexual allure to it.

So when you're intriguing to
a woman, you are ALSO sexually
attractive.

Now, why doesn't "playing hard
to get" work when you're trying
to be intriguing?

Simple:

Remember the two types of
attention we talked about
above? Great.

Then you see how ACTING intriguing
gets you WORSE ATTENTION than
BEING intriguing.

It's a very subtle difference,
so I'll spell it out in simpler
terms:

When you DO or SAY something
with your GOAL to intrigue her,
she'll notice and think that
you're trying to hard.

But when you say something
RELATED TO THE CONVERSATION
that just so happens to be
Intriguing, she'll be HOOKED,
quickly.

You can do this by using "intriguing
words" or "double entendres"

Words like "Wet, Slippery, Moist,
Thrust"... And any other word
that has a sexual meaning in
her mind.

ALSO - You can leave half of the
details out of a story.

For instance, if she asks about
your day, you can either tell her:

"It was great. I went to work, where
Tony was acting like an idiot. He
got mad at our boss so he THREW
everything off of his desk"

... Which tells her the whole story...

...Or, you could say:

"You'll never believe it. Tony
got mad and THREW everything off
of his desk!"

Which uses the same words, but
leaves out some of the details.

I can promise the first words
out of her mouth will be
either:

"What?"

"Why?"

"What happened?"

or

"Tell me more"

Because she's HOOKED on that
story.

She wants to know more.

And she won't stop asking
you questions until she has
the full story in her mind.

When you learn how to master
these "Intriguing" topics,
no woman will be able to
get enough of you.

Especially when you flow
the Intrigue right into...

************************
STEP THREE: PULL IT AWAY
************************

Because this is the 'secret
sauce' even most guys who
are AMAZING with women
are missing.

This is where the "hard"
in "hard to get" gets it's
meaning.

Because right after you
get her hooked, throw a
little sentence out there,
which tells her you're not
going to "give up the goods"

Basically let her know you
may not tell her the whole
story.

This works on the same principle
you use to tease children:

* Show her something she
wants

* Take it away from her,
as soon as she wants it

Now, most guys screw this up
because they don't know how
to BE something she wants.

And you handle that with DOMINANCE,
with INTRIGUE, with SEXUAL TENSION
and with everything I teach you
in my programs and newsletters.

The real secret is how to gently
'pull away' once you've got her.

Here's what you do:

First, get her hooked.

We'll use our previous example:

"You wouldn't believe it. Tony
got mad and THREW everything
off of his desk"

Second, she says something like:

"Wow, what happened?"

Third, you wait a little pause
(for dramatic effect, obviously ;)

And then you tell her something
like this:

"It was so sudden. You wouldn't
believe me if I told you"

or

"Ah, never mind. You probably
don't want to hear it, anyways"

These will drive her WILD!

And they're both examples of
"pulling the bait away"

Each is an example of one of
my two favorite techniques:

1) ESCALATING THE INTRIGUE

and

2) PULLING AWAY THE INTRIGUE

Both work like gangbusters.

And I'm going to devote a
future email newsletter to
10 ways you can use them
in your daily conversations
with women.

If you want to learn a few
dozen of them, right now,
then I suggest you check
out Dominant Sexual Power.

Make sure you pay CLOSE attention
to the section on INTRIGUE, because
that's exactly what we're talking
about, today.

(And take notes on SEXUAL TENSION,
too. You can ALWAYS use more of it)

You can find that program here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you'd like to focus on
the FIRST step of being hard to
get: BEING an intriguing guy,
then I recommend you read
The Attraction Code.

In fact, you'll get the most out
of Chapter's 3 and 4, because
they teach you techniques to
USE it in your daily life.

(I forget what page it's on,
but the 4EP model will work
perfect for you)

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO TODAY***

1) Get her attention by BEING
Intriguing, not SAYING or DOING
something special.

(Or you'll get the WRONG kind
of attention)

2) Give her a "hook" to bite
down on, by being an Intriguing
guy.

3) Then give it a pull, by
either:

a) Escalating the Intrigue
or
b) Pulling the Intrigue away

4) Have her eating out of
the palm of your hand :-)

Make sure you don't over do it,
though.

"Hard to get" is kind of like
catnip for cats:

Women LOVE it. Can't get enough
of it, in small doses.

But too much and she grows numb,
then it never works again.

So be smart about it.

Do Women Know What Turns Her On

Anonymous — Sat, 15 Jan 2011 07:56:53 CST

In a word: Kinda.

In a couple of words:

She knows some things turn her
OFF... For instance, bad breath,
bad hygiene and guys who are too
touchy too soon...

... But women rarely know exactly
what turns her ON.

Think about it: We're easy.

Men are simple creatures because
a woman with a good butt, legs,
face and a set of breasts turns
us on, easily.

And we're designed that way.

We're designed to want women
who are young, in good shape
and can have children without
dying during childbirth.

That's the result of a MILLION
YEAR "gene game."

What won on the women's side?

Well, to answer that question,
we'll have to dig a little
deeper.

And we may even have to travel
back a few thousand years.

Because modern woman got her
mating - therefore, her SEXUAL
- desires while humans were
still a TRIBAL society.

(Basically, when we lived in huts
and in groups of 20-50, and sometimes
even less. So before cities, civilization,
and WAY before the internet)

Early women had two options:

1) Mate with the DOMINANT male,
and have children who would
be protected from harm, fed
first in line and treated like
KINGS by the rest of the group.

or

2) Mate with NON-DOMINANT males,
and have children who may not
survive their childhood, because
the dominant male may kill them.

Obviously, when possible, she
chose the DOMINANT male.

This male would usually have
"riches" and looks, yes...

... But more importantly,
he had STATUS in the tribe.

He gave orders.

He helped others find food.

And he banded his tribe together
to fight off enemies.

So women became more and more
turned on by guys who have
STATUS and POWER.

Well... At least until
a few hundred years ago...

Because in the last hundred
years - and in the last dozen
or so years, in particular -
More men rise to powerful
positions without the
ACTUAL power that DOMINANT
men had.

For instance: 4 years in an
Ivy League school can get you
a job heading up a large
company...

... But if a girl knows this,
and STILL has more 'sexual
power' over you, she gets
turned OFF - Not on.

It all boils down to the
fact men have been trying
to BUY status for hundreds
of years.

Trying to OWN the cars, watches
and clothes that show power,
without HAVING any of that
power to wield.

So your modern woman has to
stare THROUGH most men's
******** - And figure out
for herself what your
status is.

The easiest way for her to
do this is to judge the
way you ACT around other
people.

Because if other people look
to you for answers, you must
be the leader.

And it doesn't matter whether
you drive a Ferrari or a Honda,
because your friends will treat
you according to your level of
DOMINANCE.

The more DOMINANT you are,
the higher STATUS you become.

And the higher STATUS you are,
the more she wants to have
CHILDREN with you.

(Subconsciously, even if she
uses protection, having sex
is about making children)

Therefore, the more DOMINANT
you are, the more SEXUALLY
ATTRACTIVE you become to her.

So what turns a woman on?

Well...

Fancy cars, expensive watches
and slick corner offices are
partly right...

... But only because they let
her know you're a DOMINANT man.

So how should YOU turn a woman
on?

By being a DOMINANT man, who's
IN CONTROL of himself and the
situation around him.

And a DOMINANT man who knows how
to hold a casual conversation,
then make her feel SAFE around
you - Which leads to sex.

In The Attraction Code, I teach
you exactly how to be a dominant
man - step by step.

In fact, everything you learned
in this email was taken directly
from a SINGLE CHAPTER in The
Attraction Code.

(And I left out nearly 70
pages of information, tips
and SECRETS in that chapter,
alone)

So by the time you're done reading
that single chapter - You'll never
again look at a woman like a scary,
intimidating person to talk to,
ever again.

In fact, you will understand the
secret thoughts she uses to convince
herself to sleep with CERTAIN men,
and not others.

Then, in the other 3 chapters,
you'll discover everything to
say to her... How to touch her...
And even how to act around your
friends to turn her ON.

(Sometimes you'll even convince
her to come talk to you - Before
you open your mouth. Before you
even look at her!)

And it's all packaged in a single,
one of a kind system called 4EP,
which teaches you how to be CALM
and IN CONTROL around women.

No matter how nervous you are now,
this system will make you smooth
as James Bond in his prime.

And if you're already good with
women, the 4EP system will teach
you the UNFAIR TRICKS most men
will never know.

So your friends will be begging
you, on their knees, to teach
them what YOU know about women.

And you can find it all, right
here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

Where To Meet Girls Who Like Nice Guys

datingtips101 — Tue, 11 Jan 2011 03:14:04 CST

Lots of guys focus on "when" and "how"
to meet women.

But they forget a CRUCIAL piece of the
picture:

WHERE do you meet women who aren't all
drunk, out of control and looking to
hook up with the good looking, rich
or just "high energy" party guys?

Because bars and clubs are HORRIBLE
places to meet women, if you're trying
to meet a girl you can settle down
with.

(Even if you want a girl with
girlfriend potential)

So in today's email, I'm going to
share with you my FAVORITE PLACE
to meet high quality women.

Girls who are smart, funny, intelligent
and beautiful. All wrapped in one.

And I'm going to teach you how to
how to talk to these girls so
she's into you, right away.

Because I hated playing the "flirting
game" TOO long, before I knew if she
was into me. And I bet YOU do, too.

>> For more information how to pick up
women, check out The Attraction Code.
It's got everything you need to meet
a girl, no matter WHERE you meet her,
and turn her into a loyal, loving
girlfriend:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

I got this topic idea today from
this email from a reader.

And if you want me to answer your
question, just send it to askvin@vindicarlo.com

I check that email once every day.

***QUESTION AND SUCCESS STORY FROM
A READER JUST LIKE YOU***

"Vin,

I started reading your books and
listening to your advice about
two years ago.

Since then, I went from a kind of
shy guy who's insecure around women
to sort of a confident player.

Not the obnoxious type, but more like
a smooth guy who's in control of his
attitude.

I catch girls checking me out when
I walk around and when I catch eyes
with a girl she usually looks back
at me a few times.

And I'm dating a girl I really like.
She treats me like a king, makes me
breakfast in the mornings and when
I have a stressful day she rubs my
neck and back.

She makes me feel amazing and relaxed.

So I'm not looking to leave her but
I kind of want to still "play the
field" you know? My girlfriend
is amazing but she's missing one
or two qualities in my perfect
girlfriend.

So I don't necessarily want to
cheat on her, I just want to make
sure I don't feel like I HAVE to
date her because I don't have
other options.

I was wondering where I should start
meeting women? I tried online and it
is pretty hit and miss. I use the
same things I say in person, but
the energy doesn't come across right
or something because I don't get
a lot of responses back.

Got any advice? I'd love to hear
your opinion.

And thanks a TON for all the great
newsletters in the past. You're
the real reason I'm a happy guy
today!

- Frank K., San Diego CA"

>> Hey Frank,

Glad the newsletters really helped
you out.

You hit on a key point: Guys who
USE these techniques GET RESULTS!

So congrats on that.

And you also had another great
point:

Girls DO act differently online.

In fact, guys who get good with
women in person actually DON'T
do well in online dating.

This is usually because guys who
are good in person rely a lot on
the dominance, body language and
non-verbal skills I teach guys
like you.

And when you go online, all you
have are a few words and a picture
for her to judge you by.

What ********!

That's why I prefer to meet women
in person, whenever possible.

YES - Sometimes it's scary

YES - I get shot down sometimes
(It's very rare now, but it
used to happen nearly every
other time)

and YES - You need to have
confidence in yourself to
make women attracted to
you.

Luckily, these are all easy things
to overcome!

You simply need to know WHAT to
say, and HOW to say it.

(If you want an extra self-confidence
boost, you could also check out
The Red Pill program, which is the
fastest way to confidence with
women:

http://wwww.GetTheRedPill.com)

I'm going to talk about what to say
and how to say it a little later on
in this email.

So first, let's talk about...

*****************************
VIN DICARLO'S FAVORITE PLACE
TO MEET WOMEN IN PERSON:
THE BOOKSTORE & COFFEE SHOP
****************************

Yup, I'm a cheater, I picked
two.

But it's cool, because there's
usually a coffee shop INSIDE
most bookstores.

So really, I only picked one:

A bookstore WITH a coffee shop.

(Take THAT, rules I made up!)

And here's why:

Bookstores and coffee shops both
have a relaxed environment.

What's even better, is they both
are places that ALLOW people to
talk and chat.

For instance:

You know you can't chat with
someone you met in a library.

And on the same note, talking to
a stranger at a supermarket or
grocery store is also kind of
creepy.

But if you're wandering around
a bookstore, or LOOKING at a
book, there's actually a decent
chance someone will start talking
to you about it.

Think about it:

You're in a section, surrounded
by books related to a common interest.

The people who are also there, SHARE
your common interest.

So meeting someone at a bookstore
is EASY and socially acceptable.

PLUS, it's low pressure for her
because she can just excuse herself
for quiet reading.

(Or maybe run behind a stack of books
so you can't find her lol)

Really though, most of the time,
she will be EXCITED to talk to you
because you two share a common
interest.

Or at least you should ASK her
about her interest in the books
she's looking at.

Because if she's passionate about
the topic, she will ramble on for
DAYS if you let her.

And the more a woman talks to you,
the more attractive you must be,
in her head.

You see, people look back on MEMORIES
to figure out what happened in REALITY.

For example:

You look back on the MEMORY of a friend
you knew in high school to decide
whether or not you want to talk
to him at the reunion.

And you look back at the MEMORY of
the last time you talked to a woman,
to decide whether or not you're
confident around girls.

So if this girl looks back at the
MEMORY of the first time she met
you, here's what she'll think:

"Wow. I talked to that guy for
twenty minutes! God, and I rambled
on and on like an idiot! I feel
a little embarrassed. Wow, am I
blushing? I must have really
liked this guy..."

Now, these won't be conscious
thoughts, of course.

In the same way the memories you
use to decide your favorite food
aren't conscious thoughts.

But they'll be running through her
head all the same.

So the more you make her talk,
the better.

Because the more of her TIME you
take up, the better.

Because a stronger MEMORY that
makes in her mind.

And the strength of that MEMORY
equals the strength of ATTRACTION
she feels for you.

Got the picture? Great. Let's move
on to WHAT YOU SHOULD SAY her.

Here's an easy rule:

Keep it simple, and situational.

This means keep it simple (easy)
and talk about something in the
environment around you two,
which I'll explain right now:

For instance, if you're in a
coffee shop, you can talk about:

1) What an interesting coffee she
ordered

2) How does she like the coffee
she ordered

3) How does she like the book she's
reading

4) What an amazing smell there is
here, because of the baked goods
and coffee

5) How cute she looks, and the
way she holds herself makes her
look very confident

... And the list goes on and on.

The formula for it is really
quite simple.

Just NOTICE something around you
two, then TALK about it.

And finally, ASK her thoughts
about it.

Because when you ASK her what
she thinks, you send two subtle
signals:

* You let her know you care
about her MIND, not just her
BODY

(Even if you don't, you need
to make her feel safe around
you)

* You seem like a guy who's
selfless and CONFIDENT.

A guy who can let others talk
and just LISTEN, because he's
confident enough in himself
to let go.

And letting people talk about
themselves is the highest form
of flattery.

Because she'll get to tell you
her amazing opinions, her insights
into human nature, and her likes /
dislikes / hopes and dreams.

And each one of these can turn
into further conversation, which
makes awkward pauses a thing of
the past, as well as never gives
your mind TIME to go 'blank'

This technique is something I like
to call "Threading", and you can
read all about it in the Conversation
CURE program:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And once you get her phone number,
you should discover what to do from
there.

Including how to finally fix that
"online problem", using word for
word examples that are proven to
work.

You can find all of that, here:

http://www.NoFlakesDVD.com/live

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY***

1) Go to your local bookstore
or coffee shop

2) Find a cute girl

3) Talk to her about something
around you

4) ASK her questions, and then
talk about the answers

5) Repeat step 4 until it's
time to get her phone number

Why Women Leave Revealed

datingtips101 — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 00:39:26 CST

If you've ever been in a break-up
(even if you did the dumping)
you know how painful the next
few days are.

How you feel like something is
missing in your life.

Or even like you will never find
a girl like her, ever again.

And then there's the SEXUAL SHOCK!

Going from having at least SEMI
regular sex, to no action at all!

Worst of all - You feel like the
intimacy you had with your girlfriend
took TIME to master.

So walking up to NEW women feels
scary, confusing and you don't
have a *fresh* gameplan in your
mind.

Well, you could either focus on
picking yourself back up by your
bootstraps and moving on with
your life.... or...

... You could catch the "warning
signs" and stop her from leaving
you, before the breakup ever happens.

In this email, I'm going to teach you
WHY women leave, and I'm going to
arm you with tried and true techniques
to keep YOUR girl around for as
long as you want her.

(Even if she's thought of leaving
before - These tricks will keep
her in your pocket, and by your
side)

>> These techniques were developed
from over ten years of in-field
experience, and no other man alive
has dated more women - and gotten
out of more breakups - Than I have.

In fact, on a monthly basis, I have
girlfriends finding pictures, hairs
and even tampons another girl left
in my house.

(You would think by now I'd HIDE
THE EVIDENCE!)

The fact of the matter is: There's only
one person I know who's better at
getting out of breakups than I am.

And he teaches HIS techniques for
saving a relationship, as the very
last session in Conversation Cure.

Check it out:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And now let's start the email!

Today's newsletter was inspired by
the question below, from a reader
just like yourself.

(If you'd like to email me a question,
simply send a note to askvin@vindicarlo.com.
I check it - personally - Once per
day)

****QUESTION FROM A READER****

"Hey Vin,

I've been dating this girl for about
3 months now, thanks to the techniques
I learned in The Attraction Code and
your newsletters.

The sex is great and she's an amazing
girl to talk to. I know you have multiple
girlfriends but that's really not my
style so I'm very happy.

The thing is she always talks about
other guys. Especially about how she
works with models and actors and
other comedians too.

So naturally I try my best not to
get jealous. I even tease her about
it or tell her "Wow, he's probably
cute you should totally date him"
and she giggles then comes running
at me.

But recently she's been a little
distant and I can't seem to connect
to her on an emotional level like
I did before.

I just got back from a business trip,
so I wonder if my ignoring her a
little bit while I was away caused
anything weird to happen.

Anyways, I was wondering if you think
she's thinking of leaving me. Like
are there any warning signs?

I'd like to be prepared and arm
myself just in case. Most importantly
though, I'd like to learn how to stop
her from leaving at all.

Because I really like her and not having
to work for sex or scrounge around at
some bar is a great feeling.

What do you think? And can you help
me out?

- Ed Little Rock, AR"

>> Hey Ed,

Thanks for the props about The Attraction
Code and the newsletters.

I spent months (well, really, ten years
of my life) on The Attraction Code.

And I spend at least two hours every day
writing an email to send to you.

So the fact you noticed the work really
makes a difference in my day :)

And on to your email:

You're doing a LOT of things right.

First, you're conscious of the fact
she's trying to make you jealous.

And you know you shouldn't buy into
it.

Second, you actually PUSH HER AWAY
a little bit, when she talks about
those guys.

This is GOOD.

Because women hate a needy guy who
always needs her to say "No Baby,
You're The Best Boyfriend I've
Ever Had"

Because then SHES wears the pants
in the relationship.

And she doesn't feel DOMINATED by
her man.

(If you're just tuning in - Dominated
doesn't mean degraded or used, it
simply means women like men who
have confidence and POWER in
their lives)

*******************************
WHEN YOUR WOMAN HAS THE POWER,
SHE'LL LOOK FOR ANOTHER MAN
WHO HAS MORE DOMINANCE THAN HER
*******************************

And that's the long and short of it.

It's the only reason a woman is
unhappy in a relationship, as long
as your sex life is good.

(And if your sex life could use some
pumping up, I highly recommend you
check out Dominant Sexual Power,
for obvious reasons:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

In fact, let's dive right in to
the top 3 reasons women LEAVE,
and what to do about each situation:

***********************************
THE TOP 3 REASONS WOMEN WILL LEAVE,
AND HOW TO PUT THEM ON ICE FOR GOOD
***********************************

**********************
REASON WOMEN LEAVE #1:
SHE HAS ALL THE POWER
**********************

You may be thinking to yourself
"Well duh"

And if you are - That's a good thing,
although you probably don't understand
how MUCH power you need to have.

Now if you're thinking "But some
women are just STRONG *******
WOMEN"...

... Well, then you start to see
the problem.

Because STRONG women need STRONGER
men.

In fact, I was talking with a girl
friend of mine the other day and
the topic got around to guys
who are trying to date her.

She told me about guys who showed
up with flowers...

She told me about guys who wrote
her romantic poetry and notes...

She told me about guys who paid
for EVERYTHING at dinner...

... And as she told me these
stories (which are ROMANTIC to
some women)...

... She made these guys out to
be LOSERS. Losers!

And these poor suckers probably
thought she was falling in love
with them!

Here's why she's so "cold":

Think about a boss you've had
where you thought you knew more
than him.

(And if you can't remember one,
make one up)

You probably thought:

"God, I can run the company better
than this guy"

or

"He's such a hack! I deserve that job!"

Or... and here's the real shocker...

"Why am I still here? I COULD DO
SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!!!!"

Because that's the sentence floating
through a strong girl's head when
she's matched up with a wussy guy
who doesn't "get" dominance.

She feels like she could do "better"

So if the sex isn't amazing, or if
he isn't loaded with money

(and lots of times she'll leave,
even if he's rich)

... She'll grow bored and make
a move right towards the door.

The way to stop her is to be the
stronger MAN in the relationship.

And you achieve that by being
DOMINANT and MAKING DECISIONS
and TAKING ACTION when you two
have different opinions.

You can learn all about dominance
in The Attraction Code:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

In fact, it's the only book out
there that talks about dominance
and how it relates to meeting,
sleeping with and DATING women.

But the real take-away from this
section is that YOU NEED TO BE
THE DOMINANT GUY TO MAKE A
WOMAN RESPECT YOU.

Speaking of respect...

***********************
REASON WOMEN LEAVE #2:
SHE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU
***********************

This is just a little different
than her having power over you.

And it's WORSE.

Because when she doesn't respect
you, she not only has the power and
the control...

... She also uses it to make your
life miserable.

I'm sure you've seen "pocket husbands"
or guys who let their women walk all
over them.

In fact, last night, I was eating
dinner with my girlfriend.

And at the table across from us, there
was this young couple fighting.

Well, they weren't fighting.

SHE was fighting.

SHE was calling him names, and criticizing
his family.

SHE was even saying - OUT LOUD -
How lowsy their sex life is.

And HE... Well...

... He just sat there and took it.

One of two things are going to
happen to that couple.

They're either:

A) Going to break up in no time
flat

or

B) She's going to get addicted to
that power, and hold it over his
head forever.

No matter WHICH ONE happens, HIS
life is going to be miserable.

My marriage was like that, when
I was only 20 years old.

It lasted 6 months and it was a
******* nightmare.

Fights every night and sex once
per month. If I was lucky.

I've decided to never again
stay in an abusive relationship.

I've learned the techniques to
keep her from holding her *****
over my head as a "reward" for
good behavior.

And I've dedicated my life to
healthy, sexual and fulfilling
relationships with women I truly
love and find fascinating.

How about you?

If you have - Good for you!

Welcome to the world of the enlightened
man, who understands women want dominant
men with status as much as we lust over
a girl with a great set of breasts.

If you haven't - Here's your
wake up call.

And here's a little tip to help you:

If you ever hear your girlfriend,
girl FRIEND or even a girl you just
met say something you wouldn't
tolerate from a little brother
or sister...

(make one up, if you don't already
have one. And remember - You don't
take **** from your little brother ;)

... Then either:

1) Walk away.

Leave her standing there, by herself.

Because she hasn't earned the right
to be in you presence.

It's the truth.

You NEED to respect yourself.

And the people around you who
don't respect you shouldn't be
allowed to associate with you
at ALL.

or

2) Tell her to shut up.

Tell her what she just said is
EXTREMELY disrespectful.

And tell her that if she says
anything like that ever again,
you're going to pull the car
over and kick her out on the
side of the road.

(Make your threat fit the
situation)

And be serious about it.

Women who treat you like
**** shouldn't be part of
your life.

You want a beautiful, funny,
intelligent girl with a GREAT
personality.

Best of all - She's out there,
waiting.

So don't waste your time with
the losers.

Give her one chance to "shape up"
then kick her out on her ass.

Or try to "shape" her into a
good girl.

This is extremely tough.

And it's very advanced.

But if you know a few ways to talk
to women - specific ways, grounded
in behavior modification psychology -
You can turn nearly any woman into
your "perfect girl", without too
much work.

I talk about shaping in the
S-Cubed System. You can find
out more, here:

http://www.GoCubeYourself.com

But if she doesn't have the power...

And if she respects you, or at least
tries...

Then there's only ONE reason
a woman would ever leave you:

***********************
REASON WOMEN LEAVE #3:
THE SEX ISN'T GOOD
**********************

AND:

She's not telling you that it
sucks.

That last sentence is the worst
part about it.

Because unless she flat out tells
you your love life needs work,
it's nearly impossible to tell
if she's faking it.

(HINT: The REAL good girls can
even fake physical 'symptoms'
of an orgasm)

And if she feels sexually frustrated,
it may not cause her to leave you...

... But you can bet she'll find
another guy to satisfy her,
sexually!

So don't take that chance!

If you see this warning sign,
work on your sex skills, pronto:

****THE AMOUNT OF SEX YOUR TWO
HAVE GOES DOWN, DRAMATICALLY****

Because think about it:

She hasn't suddenly started
NOT liking sex.

And you haven't been fulfilling
her sexual needs.

So she's probably at least LOOKING
to get "Filled" somewhere else.

Following me so far? Great.

So what do you do, to keep your
sex life active? Simple:

MORE DOMINANCE.

MORE VARIETY.

AND A COMBINATION OF BOTH OF
THE ABOVE.

Try new places and positions.

Tell her what you want, instead
of asking her.

And be the leader in the bedroom,
just like you are in your dating
life.

She'll love it.

Because 90% of the female orgasm
starts in her MIND.

And DOMINANCE makes her MENTALLY
READY to have sex with you.

So when you're DOMINANT to her,
DURING sex, her orgasm is pretty
much an afterthought.

And the 'technique' as far as
inches and angles becomes
second nature to YOUR body.

So take over, and make her like
it.

If you want tips and exact
WAYS to make your sex life
exciting.... Well... Your
email would never in a
million years let me type
them out.

So check out the Dominant Sexual
Power program.

It's really inexpensive, and
there's no risk if it doesn't
work for you.

(It WILL, because it teaches you
how to use dominance, vision,
compliance and shaping to create
a sexual EXPERIENCE to any
woman you meet.

And it shows you how to unlock
you own sexual POWER, so women
you just met will know you're
something special)

Check it out, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you want some advice
about being a dominant man
in general, I highly recommend
you check out The Attraction Code.

It's a must read for ANY man who
wants to get better with women.

And whether you have women treating
you like a FRIEND, or you want to
date hotter, higher QUALITY women,
it's got all the answers you're
looking for, packed right inside:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

****HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY****

1) Check to see if your girl's
ready to cheat by asking yourself
these three questions:

a) Do I have the DOMINANCE in our
relationship?

b) Does she RESPECT me?

c) Has our sex life been BETTER
THAN EVER?

And if you get even one no, try
using the following techniques:

2) Be more dominant in your relationship
by being the leader and making decisions.

3) Make her respect you by "walking away"
if she does something that puts you
down, in ANY way.

Women like that don't deserve to be
in you life.

4) Keep you sex life spicy by adding
DOMINANCE and VARIETY to your bedtime
antics.

How To Escape The Friend Zone

datingtips101 — Sat, 25 Dec 2010 20:21:06 CST

... Plus, a few tips on how
to overcome your fetishes.

(We're getting risque on this
one!)

In this email, I reach into
the askvin@vindicarlo.com
email grab bag and snatch
out 3 serious questions.

I'll teach you how to escape
the dreaded "Friend Zone"
(and it's MUCH easier than
romance movies lead you
to believe)...

I'll also teach you how to
master your own sexual energy
and power - Then put your
new sexual strength to work
for you.

(So meeting women turns almost
completely into "auto-pilot")

And finally, I'll introduce you
to one of the weirdest (in a good
way) emails I've ever gotten.

PLUS - I'll show you how to
get over your deepest, darkest
fetishes without sacrificing
your sexual "quirks"

So let's dig in:

>> I know it sounds like a lot to
take in all at once. That's why I've
put together a tiny package you can
try risk-free, that will boost your
self-confidence 10 to 100 times
what it is, today.

It's called The Red Pill and you
can find out more details about
it, right here:

http://www.GetTheRedPill.com
>>

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"Hey Vin, Brian and Matt,

I am impressed by the quality of
the DSP training. This goes far beyond
the sex and dating aspect. It has lot's
of life coaching elements that help
developing a richer, nicer and more
valuable personality.

Especially the core mp3's have 'solid
feel' and are clearly made by a
team of smart and honest people.

Although a training like this is still
very much a taboo thing, I think it has
very little to do with misleading women,
and very much with becoming a better
lover, which every woman would
encourage.

BTW, did you know that we have an
ex politician (which he did for more
than 20 years) that promoted love lessons
at school (rather than sexual education)
in Holland?

Unfortunately he publishes n Dutch..

regards,
(please don't mention my name
in an email)"

>> Hey,

Thanks for the kind words about
the Dominant Sexual Power program.

And I agree with you 100% - In fact,
my goal with this program was to help
men just like you become better MEN
and LOVERS...

... Not to teach you how to "deceive"
women into bed, or any trickery like
that.

(Even though it works just as powerfully
on a woman you just met)

I really am glad you're checking out
the program, and I want to point
something out that you're doing
right:

You're USING the information.

You're actually LISTENING to and
WATCHING the program.

Just putting these techniques to
work for you will instantly give you
a stronger sex life, and make dating
MUCH easier.

Because, like you said, the DSP program
is extremely "good" at it's core,
and is designed to empower you.

Not turn you into a sex "robot"
or someone she feels dirty about
loving.

Thanks a ton for the email.

And I had no idea politicians had hearts,
let alone knew how to love ;-)

(Watch me get email hell for
that one lol)

>> And if you want to check out the
Dominant Sexual Power program for
yourself - in order to be a better
husband, boyfriend or LOVER - Simply
click the link below:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
>>

Next up...

"Hey Vin,

This is the first time I've done this
but I might as well go into it and tell
someone about my troubles.

Now I'm in college. I'm pretty cool
with lots of people and building my
reputation (basically a lot of people
know me)

I plan on being an athlete (I LOVE FOOTBALL)

Anyways I want to get the female game
right. I'm kind of stuck in between
both worlds.

What I mean is that even though I'm
the funny guy who everybody likes
it doesn't seem to translate as well
to the African American ladies
to love me to being more than
just a friend.

I've never had a girl before, and you can
easily assume the rest.

Now I've had some chances but I haven't
capitalized even though they were
good lookin. I WANT the best, you know
the girls I want.

I'm a hopeless romantic because
I want to find that special girl
to spend the rest of my life with.

Now I am rambling but I want to give you
a feel for where I'm at. I am an African
American male who REALLY WANTS TO
UNDERSTANDDDDDDDD!! lol

I remember your email in which you
stated about how race doesn't matter,
I can feel for where your going but
many African American females have
that strong personality, and can be
hard to get "at".

Now I want to ask you how much does
it matter if you never had a girl?

I love your emails and stuff.

I just want to become more aggressive
(this is the problem), OUT OF THE FRIEND
ZONE. I've begin to really understand
the confidence part and I am but man
... hopefully you can email me back.

Thanks,

- Sam

P.S. I know that my language and
sentences are off maybe but Im
rushing, so I can get your response."

>> Hey Sam,

Wow, we've got a lot of ground to
cover!

FIRST UP:

LADIES AT COLLEGE.

College women are like most women,
but are a little unique for a few
reasons:

1) They're HIGHLY TUNED to social
status.

Even more than real life, because
your JOB doesn't matter - But your
FRIENDS or CLUBS, do.

So the fact that you're cool with
everyone will serve you, big time.

2) They're much more sexual.

Which is great for you, because
- like you said - Sometimes
opportunity just falls at
your feet.

Now, if you've never been with a
woman, don't worry about it!

When the time comes for you two
to "do the deed" you can either
TELL HER, or just let it slide
and learn as much as you can
from her.

If you "finish quick" just joke
about it and tell her you haven't
been sexually active in awhile.

Help her stay aroused until you
get ready to go again. Or even
get her off with your hands or
fingers.

(This topic is better saved for
DSP or The Sex God Method by my
good friend Daniel Rose)

WHAT'S EVEN BETTER IS:

She's more likely to be attracted
to a "funny" friendly guy.

And getting out of the Friend Zone
is a LOT simpler in college.

Just follow these three steps:

******************************
HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE
IN 3 EASY STEPS:
******************************

1) Stop seeing yourself as
her "friend"

Because you're not!

A friendship gives both parties
something as a reward for the
friendship.

She gets a shoulder to cry on,
a buddy to hang out with and
someone to sleep with if every
one of her other options run
out.

What do you get?

The chance to talk to her, and
HOPE she'll sleep with you!

It's not even. That's what
you fix next....

2) Fix your "balance of power"

Because the only reason you're
in the "Friend Zone" right now
is because she sees herself as
more "valuable" than you.

This is probably because you
WORK for her attention more
than she works for yours.

Put it back into the 50/50
realm, or she'll never take
you seriously as a lover.

For instance:

* Pay 50/50 for dates
* Have her come over your
place 50% of the time
* Have her listen to your
stories, 50% of the time

And really, anything else that
irks you or bothers you, either
have her quit it or halve it.

That's a good rule of thumb.

3) Get SEXUAL!!!... !

Use sexual tension, and
talk to her sexually.

Talk about sex.

Tell each other what you like
and dislike in bed.

Swap stories, and touch her
a LOT more often.

If you're her friend, it's
because she doesn't see you
like a lover.

Let her feel your touch and
think about sleeping with you
in her mind.

It'll spark her "automatic
wetness mechanism", if you
know what I mean... ;-)

Now, you can find a TON of
sexual tension techniques in
these newsletters.

And the best place to pick them
all up in one package is the
Dominant Sexual Power program.

It's less than twenty bucks:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

*******************************
WHY RACE DOESN'T MATTER -
EVEN IF SHE'S AFRICAN AMERICAN
*******************************

I like how you referenced an
old email.

It lets me know you're paying attention,
and that you READ and USE the techniques
I teach you.

Because honestly, if you don't
READ and you don't USE, you
won't GET the results you want.

Keep that in mind.

Where you went wrong, however,
is DOUBTING THE POWER! lol

Women are women, and they respond
to the same basic dominance cues.

What was interesting, is how you
brought up the "strength" of
African American women.

This is important for EVERYONE
to know, even if you only date
a different type of girl.

Because this "strength" comes up
in EVERY AREA of life.

Lots of SUCCESSFUL WOMEN are strong
women who dominate most men, and
therefore aren't attracted to
them.

So here's my advice:

Be More Dominant Than Her.

Be the leader.

Make decisions.

And don't let her "run" things.

Because a strong woman is looking for
a REALLY strong man.

Think about friends you have who
just can't "keep up" with you
in certain areas of your life.

Obviously, you don't want to be
around them because they don't
challenge or inspire you to be
better.

It's just like that with women
but STRONGER - Because she NEEDS
to be with a dominant man to be
sexually fulfilled.

So if you meet a strong woman,
you better be a dominant, strong
guy.

This all comes down to mastering
your sexuality, sexual tension,
vision and compliance, which
are the four main things I talk
about in DSP.

And if you're looking for specific
tips, check out newsletters you got
two weeks ago, and 4 days from now.

You'll get a TON of tips :-)

Last one:

*** QUESTION FROM A READER ***

"Dear Mr Vin Dicarlo,

I am really impressed by your mails.

In your video you talked about a 5' 4"
guy tony!

HERE is my problem:-

I am 5' 8",good looking, 22 yrs old indian
guy. I am ok when talking to girls in general.

Yet I have 2 strange fetishes:

1) I love tall girls ...taller than me at least

2) I love big feet of girls that too only
the feet bigger than 10 inches...

Now I try to touch girls' feet when
they are sleeping in train because I
am unable to even think that I can
get a girl friend taller than me...

Yet I see exceptions. Other small boys
making out with tall girls...

The thing is that only tall girls mostly
have big feet and long toes and this is
a big turn on for me... I dont know from when...

One more thing if a girl of 18 or 19yrs
i.e. younger to me is taller to me, I
just get mad to get her by any means...

I just can believe that some girls can
have bigger feet than me though I wear
size 9...

SO HOW DO I TALK TO GIRLS taller than me
to convince them to be my girlfriend...

In india mostly girls want a boyfriend
whom they can marry in the future.

But I dont want to marry them and
even they can think of marrying me!!

So how do I convince them...
I am really frustrated. I even went to
a psychologist who told me cognitive
thinking...and said that I had just
social anxious avoidant disorder
and it will be fine!!

BUT IT DID NOT HELP ME...PLEASE HELP ME
IF YOU CAN...I WANT TO HAVE a TALL GIRL!!"

I would be grateful for your advice.

Yours faithfully,
- Prashant"

>> Hey Prashant,

When I first got your email, I
immediately thought it would be
better answered personally.

You know, to keep the nitty gritty
details between us. Because I thought
guys who liked feet or tall girls were
in the minority.

But the more I read your email, and
the deeper I thought about it, I
realized that your "problem" talking
to women, your "fetish" for feet and
tall girls and your "problem" talking
to them all stems from the same
thing:

You Try To CONVINCE Girls,
Because You Don't Think They'd
Like You As You Are.

And this is a common thread for men
around the world. Guys who like tall
women, short women, blonde women,
even African American women, like
our friend above does.

The one and ONLY thing you NEED to
know to be good with women is this:

"I am OK as I am"

Period.

You need to accept yourself.

Think of it this way - You are
NOT "flawed" in some way.

Even if you have an extraordinary
genetic uniqueness, or your situation
(physically or mentally) isn't
PERFECT...

... YOU, as a MAN, are NOT "flawed"

You simply are a man who has unique
skills, advantages and problems.

Like all other men in the world.

Prashant, you like taller women,
and women are genetically pre-
dispositioned to like men who
are taller than them.

I happen to like Asian women with
big breasts. And not only are most
Asian women flat chested, but they
also usually don't fall for Caucasian
guys.

My friend Alex happens to really
like Jewish girls, and their parents
hate him because he wasn't born
"one of the tribe."

My trainer Brian likes Latin girls
who think white men aren't passionate
enough to fulfill their needs.

And my friend and colleague Sean
Stephenson has a condition that
leaves him trapped in a wheelchair.

Yet he still dates beautiful women
who love him very much.

You see, your physical 'handicaps'
are all MENTAL... Not REAL.

What YOU NEED to do is tell yourself
"I am OK as I am"

And go from there.

Because if you truly believe that
YOU are a man worth loving, dating
or getting close to...

... Well, women will start to
believe it, too.

Tall.

Short.

Asian.

Jewish.

African American.

And even 5'3" Brazilian models
with green hair and lip piercings.
If that's your thing.

Because this whole "being good with
women" journey we're on is REALLY,
at it's core, a "Being a better
MAN" journey.

And if you focus on making YOURSELF
better instead of tricking or
CONVINCING her to like YOU...

... Well, she'll start to like
you.

And you, YOU... Not some fake
front you put up to attract her.

I built The Attraction Code around
this way of thinking.

And a full 2 years after it's writing,
it's helped thousands of men around
the world become better men...

... Better husbands, better boyfriends,
better lovers...

... And I'd like you to try it for
yourself, risk-free.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

And if you want to start small, with
an easy self-confidence boost, pick up
The Red Pill program.

In it, you'll learn everything you could
ever want to charge up your self-confidence
about and around women.

Check it out:

http://www.GetTheRedPill.com

***AND HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO REMEMBER:***

Being good with women is about
being proud of yourself.

And then USING that pride to
take charge of your life.

To make decisions for yourself
and the people around you.

And to become a LEADER for you
and others to a better life,
for all of you.

If you can figure that out
(on your own, or with my help)
you will never again wonder
why women don't like you.

Or even spend a single week
single, unless you CHOOSE
to be.

Evil Evil Dating Tricks

Anonymous — Sat, 18 Dec 2010 10:30:00 CST

I've manipulated women.

We all have.

Once - maybe a blue moon,
long ago - You told a "white
lie" to a woman, because you
thought she'd like you better.

Hey, it doesn't make you
a bad person.

It simply makes you HUMAN.

But in the past ten years, I've
dated a LOT of women.

And I'm still lucky enough to
call some of these women my
friends.

So when I hear stories about
guys who use lies, deception
and absolute malicious
MANIPULATION to get into
her pants...

... Well, it upsets me.

Especially when she blatantly
asks, "Did you read that
somewhere?"

or

"That sounds like something
(X Creepy Guy) would say.
Did you learn it from him?"

And then they flat out deny
it.

Guys - Here's a wake-up call:

THERE'S NO GOOD REASON TO
LIE TO A WOMAN!

Honestly, none at all.

I used to think lying would make
my life sound "better" than it
actually was.

And she'd want to sleep with me
or date me more.

I quickly found out that the
TRUTH about my life - When I
FOCUSED on being a dominant
man - Got me much more attention
from women.

In fact, I've been at bars with
students who got literally called
out for using a technique I taught
them.

A tall busty blonde asked my short
student, "Did you learn that from
Vin DiCarlo?"

Well, my student (and I'm so proud
of him for this) looked her right
in the eye and said:

"Yup. I think how men and women
interact - especially romantically -
Is fascinating. It's a shame guys
don't have any good advice.
Hell, at least YOU have
Cosmo!"

Guess what happened?

She cracked up laughing!

And they spent the next 45 minutes
chatting about social interactions
and how men and women think
differently about dating.

He got her phone number.

And last time I emailed him,
they had been dating a whole
year and a half.

You see, you shouldn't be ashamed
of getting better with women.

In fact, almost every article
in every women's magazine ever
written has SOME sort of "sex
appeal" to it.

And you'd be SUPER-SURPRISED at
how many HOT women are interested
by "social dynamics" between men
and women.

(Some of the hottest girls I've
ever dated spent most of their
'free reading' devouring books
like The Lucifer Effect and
The Red Queen)

(BOTH books should be on your
'must read' list, by the way)

In fact - I suggest talking to
ANY woman you meet about how
different men and women are
treated, when it comes to
dating.

Here's the juice:

Sit back and LISTEN.

LEARN.

You'll be fascinated by what
comes out of her mouth.

And it'll make it that much easier
to seduce her.

BUT HERE'S THE REAL REASON
I'M WRITING THIS EMAIL TO YOU,
TODAY:

Last night, I heard a horror
story from one of my ex-girlfriends.

She told me about a man who tried
to hypnotize her, and take advantage
of her.

Now, you should know, it didn't
work.

It never does.

He just looked silly, and creeped
her out.

In her own words: "I was going to
sleep with him until he started telling
me all about this roller coaster ride
with weird stage-hypnosis in it"

LET ME COME CLEAN:

I wasn't always a "saint" when it
comes to meeting women.

(Hell, I still ain't)

I've told white lies.

I've told black lies.

I've tried telling a woman nothing
but the truth.

And I've lied for hours to a woman
I loved, right to her face.

I learned how to use NLP and
hypnosis to influence and
control people.

BUT IT GOT ME NOWHERE!

I got my girlfriends...

I got 99% of my students...

I got my reputation as a dating
"guru"...

And I came up with EVERYTHING
you read in these newsletters...

... Once I saw how much more
POWERFUL being honest with
others is.

More importantly, being honest
with YOURSELF.

And then take PRIDE in who
you truly are.

That's the basis of DOMINANCE.

And if teaching men how to be
BETTER MEN in order to meet women
is "manipulative"...

... Then I teach some evil, EVIL
dating tricks, goddamnit.

I don't think so, however.

And not a single woman I've ever
met would say so, either.

Because when you truly get dominance
down, you bring LIGHT to your
life, and the lives of other
people as well.

No darkness.

No manipulation.

And no HATRED.

(Because trying to force someone
to have sex with you is as similar
to rape - mentally - As anything,
as far as I'm concerned)

What's the point of this email?

Simple:

Figure it out yourself.

And learn to LOVE women.

LOVE yourself.

LOVE your honest, truthful
self.

Flip that one switch in your head,
from "manipulate women" to "become
an amazing man", and you'll never
want for a girlfriend or even
one-night stand, ever again.

This much I promise you.

So give it a shot.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

5 Greatest Pickup Lines Of All Time

datingtips101 — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 06:37:41 CST

And they won't get you slapped in
the face, either!

I'm sure you've seen a girl at
the bar. And you've wanted to
talk to her.

But your mind suddenly went blank!

Your funny, witty, intelligent
self got sucked right out of you!

And you simply don't know the
'right' thing to say.

The easiest way to get over this
is to use a simple sentence
someone else wrote FOR you.

But most "pickup lines" are
corny and cheesy. For example:

"Is that a mirror in your pocket?
Because I can see myself in
your pants"

Yuck!

However, you're in luck!

Because there are 5 simple sentences
almost every woman alive will fall
for.

And they'll give you a GOOD reaction
from her - Not a GROSS one.

So check them out:

>> And if you'd like some tips to
go from 0 to 60 with her, right after
your first one-liner, you should
check out the techniques in
Conversation Cure.

It's an easy to watch, easy to learn
program you can use to master talking
to women TONIGHT, so check it out:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php
>>

Here's the question that inspired
today's email. And if you want to
reach me, send an email to
askvin@vindicarlo.com

I check that email personally,
once per day.

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"Hey Vin,

I've been talking to women for a few
months now. Not like I haven't been
talking to women for all my life,
but it feels like I've been reborn
since I started reading your emails
and following your advice.

It's like I'm talking to girls for
the first time ever and I can't
thank you enough.

But I was wondering. I always hear
my friends who are amazing with
women always say the same stuff
over and over to women, and they
get great results.

Women seem to really like them
even though they're not the
best looking guys. They're
pretty funny but that's
about it.

And all this one guy in particular
does is tell a girl "You've got
the cutest smile" She loves it
every time.

So what are your ideas about
this? And do you have any
pick up "lines" you use
on a regular basis?

If so, I'd love to hear them.

- Bobby B., Jacksonville FL."

>> Hey Bobby,

Your friend sounds like a
"funny guy"

(What I call men who pick up
women based mostly on HUMOR
- Which is KILLER when you
couple it with DOMINANCE)

And just like you, ten years
ago I noticed my friends
always said the same thing
to girls.

In fact, one of my buddy's
favorite lines was:

"If you knew how much I want
you right now, you wouldn't
even be talking to me"

He wouldn't say this RIGHT
AWAY, of course.

But he'd throw it in VERY
early.

With great success too.
Women love him.

Why does it work? Well,
mainly because it says
all sorts of good things
about his character.

Things like:

1) He's FUN.

He doesn't take life too
seriously.

And he knows women like
a relaxed man who can
help her wind down from
her stressful life.

2) He's DOMINANT.

He says what he wants, and
doesn't censor himself for
anyone else.

He goes after what he wants,
and will give her passion and
excitement in her life.

Which also lets her know...

3) He's SEXUAL.

She knows he's not just another
"friend" guy who won't make her
feel like a woman.

Or won't give her sexual attention.

Because even though women like
guy friends, she's always on the
look out for a boyfriend or
hook up.

(That's just how we are as
humans. We're sexual creatures)

And it's amazing he could communicate
that all with a LINE.

Just ONE LINE!

That's why quotations are so
amazing - Because people pack
so much into one small line.

And if you use one of the 5 lines
(actually, 5 FORMULAS) I show you
below...

... She'll look at you different.

With a warmer, sexual glow.

Because you'll have packed all
of the above information^^^^^^^^^

... Into one, easy to swallow,
bite sized sentence.

Boom! Ice broken!

****************************
DICARLO COACHING PRESENTS:
THE 5 GREATEST PICK-UP LINES
OF ALL TIME!!
****************************

****************************
AMAZING PICK-UP LINE #1:
"You Guys Look Like So Much
Fun"
****************************

This is a fall-back classic,
because it works so well in
bars and clubs.

Here's why it's an all-time
favorite:

1) Everyone thinks they're
fun, by nature.

So she'll automatically say
"Hell Yeah!" or something
similar.

That way, you go from "guy
no one knows" to "cool new
friend" in seconds flat.

And from there, you can
just hop into whatever
conversation she was
already having with
her friends.

2) It will encourage her
to BE more fun.

Because she takes on a self-
label as "The fun girl"

So she can't blow you off,
or ignore you straight away.

Otherwise, she'll look
weird and aggressive.

So you can actually have
a chit-chat before she
shuts you out of her
life.

(Which usually only happens
when she's having a bad night)

>> This is the basics of a technique
I call "Shaping". Shaping helps you
turn ANY girl into your perfect
girlfriend-type, with as little
work as possible.

I packed the instructions and specific
techniques into the Dominant Sexual
Power program, which you can find
here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
>>

3) You turn into the FUN guy,
not just another bar dude.

You automatically position yourself
FAR away from the average guy at
the bar who walks up to her with a
drunken smile, saying:

"Hey, what's your phone number?"

Instead, you're giving her good
emotions, and she wants to spend
more time around you.

Which, I'm sure you agree, is
the whole goal of a pick-up line,
anyway :-)

****************************
AMAZING PICK-UP LINE #2:
"Hey"
****************************

The most tried and true "pick up
line" ever invented is just
one word:

"Hey"

Just say hi, and introduce yourself.

Here's what it secretly communicates
to her:

1) You're a confident guy.

You don't need to sugar-coat your
intentions, or impress her with a
witty joke.

You simply want to talk to her,
and now you are.

Which also tells her...

2) You're relaxed.

Even if you're secretly shaking
in your boots.

Because even though she may notice
your nervous twitches, her mind has
to process your laid-back attitude.

And she'll automatically say
"hey" back, getting your conversation
started.

Now... Hey IS a toughie.

Because you have to transition from
"Hey" to a full conversation where
you two are talking about something
interesting.

That's why I recommend one of the
"lines" we're about to talk about.

But if you're stuck in your head,
wondering what witty thing to say,
just relax, kick back and say Hi.

You'll be astonished at the results.

(Because women are just like guys
- always open to meeting new people)

>> Want a little help getting a
conversation started? Try
Conversation CURE:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php
>>

****************************
AMAZING PICK-UP LINE #3:
Notice Something About Her
****************************

... Or the place you two are
hanging out.

What amazing about this approach is
that you get the two benefits of
just saying "hey"...

(remember? You seem confident and
relaxed)

... Plus, you have a built-in
topic to talk about.

For instance:

If you're at a bar with a cool
design, say "I love how these
walls look when they're all
lit up. Ever seen anything
like it?"

Or if she's wearing something
cool, say "Awesome dress, you've
got a wicked fashion sense"

This "line" or "formula" is great
because it's still EASY to use,
doesn't require you to memorize
a damn thing, and you still
aren't the "bar guy"

(In fact, you're slowly moving
farther and farther away from
the Average Joe who approaches
her.

And the farther down this list
you go, the farther away from
'normal' you'll get, continuing
with...)

****************************
AMAZING PICK-UP LINE #4:
Give Her A Compliment
****************************

And here's a hint:

DON'T compliment her PHYSICAL
beauty.

Give her a REAL compliment.

Say something like, "I love the
way you walk. You hold yourself
really confidently"

or maybe you'd say "You've got
such a fierce fashion sense"

(Which, I admit, is actually part
of a "line" you learned earlier.

THAT line is in fact an example
of the BEST type of 'pick up line',
which we'll get to in just a
second)

THIS WORKS LIKE GANGBUSTERS!

Because even though some women
will reject compliments about
her physical beauty...

... Women are actually very
self-conscious people, who
crave attention and approval.

So by giving her a little compliment
and attention on something she
WORKED HARD to do, or is PROUD OF,
you're secretly putting a "stamp"
her her deepest desires and
ambitions.

You come across like a DOMINANT
man who APPROVES of others, instead
of seeking approval.

(ie. you make your own rules,
you don't follow others around)

And you also show a keen eye and
attention to details.

Which is a little hint about your
lovemaking skills, to her.

A POSITIVE hint, I may add.

I'll tell you how to FIND these
hidden compliments in just a
second.

And you'll see why, once you
read about the BEST KIND OF
PICK UP LINES, EVER:

****************************
*!!BEST PICK UP LINE EVER!!*
****************************
AMAZING PICK-UP LINE #5:
"I Saw You _____ And
I Noticed You _______"
****************************

Because it combines the best
parts of the last two types
of pick up lines.

And here's how you pull it off:

Say:

"I saw you *INSERT WHATEVER SHE
WAS DOING*, and I noticed *WHATEVER
YOU NOTICED ABOUT HER*"

For example, the one we've
been using throughout this
whole email:

"I saw you walking by and
I noticed your dress. It's
really unique and you've got
a FIERCE fashion sense.
Very cool"

This type of pick-up "line"
is incredible.

No matter WHAT you put it,
you will always sound like
you made it up on the fly.

And she'll always swoon over
it, because it's one of the
most *real* compliments she's
ever gotten.

I'm SURE of it.

HERE'S HOW TO PICK A PERFECT
COMPLIMENT:

Look at a few things -

a) How she's dressed
b) How she's shaped
c) How she interacts
withe her friends

If one of these things gets
you going, let her know.

And if not, simply say this:

"I saw you walking by, and
I noticed you have the fiercest,
most confident walk I've ever
seen. It's very sexy"

No matter where you met her,
she'll love this line.

Because it's very relevant
to her situation.

(She just walked by you,
obviously)

And because she 99 times out
of 100 has never heard that
as a compliment before.

(Plus, it's a secret compliment
that makes her feel sexy without
seeming like you only want her
for her body)

So use this line, a lot.

Here are some more examples:

"I saw you with your friends,
and I noticed you seem to be
the 'leader' of the group.
You reminded me of the head
kitten in the pack"

or

"I saw you over there, and
I couldn't help but notice
how beautiful you are. I'd
feel cheated if I didn't
at least come over and
say hi"

or even

"I saw you a couple of minutes
ago, and I noticed something
special about you. I don't know
what it is, but it's like a
confident aura surrounds you.
You really caught my attention"

... You will knock her socks
off.

And make talking to her
SUPER EASY.

Want more tips to make her swoon
the second you open your mouth?

Want to know the 'right' thing to
say, in EVERY situation... Even
if your mind usually goes blank
the second you see a pretty
face?

Then I highly recommend you watch
Conversation Cure, because you'll
learn a whole case of conversational
ammo to keep women interested in you
without ever once hitting an awkward
pause.

And you can check it out, including
all the gritty details, right here:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And if you're a little more advanced,
or want the "quick start" guide to
make meeting women easy, you should
check out the Drills Bootcamp program.

In just one, 3-day weekend, you'll learn
everything you'll ever need to go from
chump to champ with women.

(No matter where you're starting out,
or where you want to be when Monday
morning arrives)

And you can see if you're Drills Caliber
by filling out the application below:

http://www.DrillsBootcamp.com

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TONIGHT***

1) Don't use any more corny pick
up lines

2) Relax, and know it's OK to not
know the perfect thing to say

3) If all else fails, say "Hi"
and start talking about your
surroundings

4) Or say "Hey", then give her
a compliment to get her talking

5) And ideally, tell her this:

"I saw you *WHATEVER SHE WAS
DOING* and I noticed *WHAT YOU
NOTICED ABOUT HER*"

(If you can't fill in the blanks,
just tell her:

"I saw you walking by, and I
noticed you carry yourself
really well. You seem to be
surrounded by this confident
aura. It's very sexy"

You'll make her day.

I promise :-)

Top 5 Body Language Mistakes

datingtips101 — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 06:34:49 CST

Most women can rule you out
seconds BEFORE you ever open
your mouth to talk to her.

It's not magic.

It's not women's 'intuition'

And it's not because you're
giving off some secret, powerful
"rejection signals" - ie. the
Law of Attraction, either.

She's simply a better judge
of body language than 99% of
men - including me and you.

Think about it:

Her entire life, she's read
magazines such as Cosmopolitan
(with articles about body
language twice per month)

She's watched movies where
fearless heroines nit-pick
tiny details in men, and
accurately judge his
character in seconds.

And her mom (and her grandma
before her) passed what SHE
learned down, and down, and
down through the generations.

So in today's day and age,
women are practically
"mind readers" when it
comes to men.

(Something our daily sitcoms
never let you forget)

Thats why, in this email, you'll
learn the Top 5 Body Language
MISTAKES Most Men Make, and
you'll discover how to fix
them in seconds.

So she can't judge you before
you start talking and she
gets to KNOW you.

>> If you want perfect body language,
you should know that perfect POSTURE
kills your chances with women.

I explain one reason why, below, and
I've packed my favorite body language
tips into The Attraction Code.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php
>>

I got today's email idea from
Jack's email, which you can
read below.

And if YOU want your question
answered, simply send it to
askvin@vindicarlo.com

I check that email address personally,
once per day.

***QUESTION AND SUCCESS STORY
FROM A READER***

"Hey Vin,

This is the first time I've done
this but I might as well tell
somebody about my troubles.

I think I emailed you because I'm
a huge fan of The Red Pill man.
It's really bumped up my self
confidence and sense of worth
and I think women can really
tell.

I kinda want to ask you a question
about that in a bit but let me
tell you this story first.

I was out shopping the other day
and saw this beautiful woman.
She was a total MILF too. I'm
already over 30 so it's weird
to say that but she was something
else.

Amazing curves in all the right
places and a smile to die for.

Anyways I walked up to her and
started talking just by introducing
myself to her and whatever.

We chit chatted, then I started
threading with her like you
taught me in your emails.

After a few minutes I got her
phone number by saying "I really
like talking with you, can we
talk later?" Then she gave it
to me.

(I was REALLY excited about
that. I've never wanted a
woman's phone number that
bad in my entire life!)

Btw - Do you think I said the
right thing? I know it's not
exactly what you recommend
but I was so nervous lol.

I plan on texting her tonight
just like you say in the NoFlakes
bonus book but I have a quick
question first.

What do you think made her
like me? Like, I don't think
I was super interesting or
cool.

I seem to have more success with
your techniques when I just relax
and be myself. Especially when
the conversations aren't that
interesting.

I just get a really relaxed
feeling in my chest and my
upper back and neck, and
women seem to react to me
COMPLETELY different when
it happens.

So I was wondering if there's
something to that, or is it
all in my head?

Anyways Vin, thanks a whole ton
for even reading this and I'm
going to go text her now.

Wish me luck!

- Jack, Pensacola, FL."

>> Hey Jack,

Good luck :-)

And yes, you did great by
asking for her phone number.

In fact, the fact that you
asked for her phone number
is a TON more important than
what you said.

(Like you were talking about
- The FEELING trumps EXECUTION
99% of the time)

Send her ANYTHING in NoFlakes
and I can promise you an amazing
first date.

So let's dig down into your
question:

You phrased it,

"I seem to have more success with
your techniques when I just relax
and be myself. Especially when
the conversations aren't that
interesting."

And I think you hit the nail
right on the head, there.

Here's why:

Men are trained to look for beautiful
women.

And women are trained to look for
confident men.

Being relaxed in a stressful
situation shows a lot of
confidence.

(And even a woman knows that
talking to strangers is more
than a little stressful)

So when she sees you being relaxed
and at ease, she instantly gets
a little more attracted to you.

But it's not like she can look
at you and SEE "relaxation" or
"confidence", right? Of course
not!

So what is she actually looking
at?

The answer is:

YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

They didn't name it body LANGUAGE
for nothing.

Because your entire body is "speaking"
to her, while you two are chatting
with your lips.

Your hands gestures are telling
her how you feel about the story
you're telling...

The way you stand lets her know
if you're comfortable being in
'her space'...

And whether or not you hold onto
"tension" while you two are talking
clues her in to your level of
confidence and RELAXATION
around her.

So what are the EXACT cues she's
looking for?

You'll never know.

Because every woman is different,
and your body is a BIG place, with
lots of little tension points
and involuntary movements.

And if you're constantly 'monitoring'
your body language, you'll come across
insecure and shy!

So I prefer to - and I highly recommend
you get in the habit of - watch(ing)
out for a few bad body language
habits.

In fact, there are 5 "killers"
you'll see every time a man
talks to a woman.

Here they are, along with step-by-step
solutions to each:

>> And if how you stand isn't a problem
for you, because WHAT YOU SAY has you
stumped, I also highly recommend the
Conversation CURE program.

It's packed with tips, tricks and
techniques designed to take the sting
out of talking to women, by making
"getting rejected by her" nearly
impossible, and deleting awkward
silences - for GOOD!

Best of all - It's practically a
steal. So check it out:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php
>>

**************************
DICARLO COACHING PRESENTS:
THE TOP 5 MOST DANGEROUS
BODY LANGUAGE !!MISTAKES!!
**************************

(getting fancy with the
list names, lately :-)

*****************************
BIG BODY LANGUAGE MISTAKE #1:
PUFFING YOUR CHEST OUT
*****************************

From cartoons to real-life movies,
every cocky sonuvabitch has his
chest puffed out with pride.

And he always gets the girls!

So pushing your chest out may
seem like a good way to project
confidence to women.

In fact, many posture coaches
and even dating 'experts' tell
you to push your chest out as
far as possible to give an
intimidating presence.

Well, it works.

But they missed one, little
point:

An Intimidating Presence Will
SCARE HER OFF!

You want to seem friendly,
charming and warm.

Not intimidating, harsh
or cold!

And the best way to do this
is to relax, as much as possible.

Yes, perfect posture makes
your chest pop out a bit.

And yes, it's a good idea
to seem confident and not
slump over.

But relaxed and happy trumps
puffed up and proud 99 times
out of 100.

(And the last guy probably was
rich out of his mind)

So make sure you focus on
being relaxed and at ease,
instead of "confident" or
"tough"

But don't use it as an
excuse to...

*****************************
BIG BODY LANGUAGE MISTAKE #2:
HANDS IN YOUR POCKETS
*****************************

Shy little kids put their
hands in their pockets.

But so did James Dean.

And many of our world-leaders
tuck their hands into their
pockets or waist bands.

So obviously, it can't hurt,
right?

Wrong.

By itself, having your hands
in your pockets is no big
deal.

Sometimes you need to find
an item from your pocket.

And sometimes your hands are
just plain cold.

But the signals it gives a
woman are totally different.

For example:

Most pictures of a famous
actor or president that show
his hands in his pockets were
taken in a situation where he
felt uncomfortable or out of
his element.

In fact, by hiding our hands,
we're secretly telling the
world either:

"Don't worry! I'm no threat!
I've tucked my hands away"

or

"I'm going to make myself look
smaller, so I don't seem like
a threat to you"

Both of these signals make you
feel more comfortable in stressful
situations.

And BOTH are messages you
DON'T want to send to women.

So simply let your hands
swing by your sides.

It may be uncomfortable for just
a few minutes to start, but you'll
see women reacting differently

- BETTER -

To you, not even a few seconds
later.

>> And if you want a 'magic pill'
confidence booster, try The Red Pill
program.

It's chock full of the top ideas
I've discovered for powering up
your self-confidence.

And you tell ME what you should
pay for it, at the link below:

http://www.GetTheRedPill.com
>>

*****************************
BIG BODY LANGUAGE MISTAKE #3:
POOR EYE CONTACT
*****************************

This is a biggie.

And it's super-common, so you
know how important it is.

People trust people who look
them in the eyes.

And for a woman to be aroused
around you, she needs to trust
you.

So giving her solid eye contact
is CRUCIAL to turning her on.

Watching her eyes 85% of the
time when you're talking or
listening... And 50% of the
time while you two are
relaxing together should
do the trick.

(As for guys who are trying
to 'stare you down' to intimidate
you, relax.

Keep the same rules, and you'll
not only FEEL better, you'll
also look like the guy in
control.

While he stares you down
and looks both creepy and
awkward)

Now, while your eyes are on
hers, she's also checking out...

*****************************
BIG BODY LANGUAGE MISTAKE #4:
WHERE & HOW YOU STAND
*****************************

This is CRUCIAL.

And it's a little fact you've
probably looked over:

Where You Place Your Feet
MATTERS

And women can learn a lot about
you, from it.

For instance, if you're leaning
back on your back foot, and
you're turned away from her,
she subconsciously knows you
want to run away or escape.

And if your feet are too close
together, she sees that you're
uncomfortable taking up other
people's space.

So what's the perfect "foot
distance"?

And where do you stand so you're
close enough to be talking to
her intimately, without
"invading her space"?

Follow this one rule of thumb
and you'll never make a mistake:

Stand with your feet roughly
shoulder width apart.

(So you've got a solid base
to stand on, but you're not
being TOO cocky)

(SIDENOTE: This will help you
FEEL more confident, too)

And stand just close enough to
her to feel her body heat.

This is roughly 2 to 2.5 feet
away from her.

You'll be close enough to her
to turn her on with your
presence, and far enough
away that she feels she
can escape if she
needs to.

(This is important for a
woman, because it makes
her feel safe.

And we talked about how
important that is, at
the start of this email)

Where you stand is important...

Your eye contact is important...

How you hold your hands is
important...

... But NOTHING is more
important than avoiding
this next big blunder:

*****************************
BIG BODY LANGUAGE MISTAKE #5:
BEING STIFFER THAN A STICK
*****************************

If you're not relaxed,
she won't be, either.

And if she can't relax,
she can't do ANY of the
following:

1) She Can't Get Aroused

So she can't become attracted
to you.

Because the parts of her brain
that control "stress" and
"arousal" are sworn enemies.

While "relaxation" and "arousal"
are literally only inches from
each other.

2) She Can't Have An Orgasm

This goes hand-in-hand with
above, but a little later on
in your relationship.

Unless she can chill out and
wind down, winding her back
up will be damn near impossible.

So giving her the "Big O"
is out of the question.

And since she mentally knows
both of the above...

3) She Can't Keep Talking
To You!

Which REALLY screws up your
shot at dating her, in the
long run.

HOW DO YOU RELAX - OR -
HOW DO YOU FAKE RELAXED
BODY LANGUAGE UNTIL YOU
CHILL OUT?

They both have the same
answer:

Try to get as much tension
out of your body as possible.

You can do this by smiling.

You can do this by thinking
positive thoughts.

And you can do this by stretching
every morning before you leave
the house.

However, the ONLY way to
completely relax is:

STAY OUT OF YOUR HEAD!

Stop thinking about what
COULD go wrong.

And stop trying to plan for
the future, while you two
are talking.

Because in order to relax,
you have to drop the tension
and live in the moment.

Be present.

It's insanely attractive to
women, even though it's not
the easiest thing to do.

Want help relaxing? Need to know
the secrets to looking calm and
confident around a beautiful
woman?

Check out The Attraction Code.

In this 200+ page book, I lay out
every secret and technique I know
to make women attracted to you.

(And in the past 10 years and
hundreds of girlfriends, I've
got LOTS)

So when you claim your copy of
The 'Code, you legally "steal"
my experience and use it to
shortcut your own rejections
and screw ups.

Check it out, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

And if you want more tips and tricks
TAILORED to talking with women,
I highly recommend watching
Conversation Cure.

In this 8 dvd set, you'll discover
everything you could ever need to
know about talking to a woman.

Including exact word-for-word ways
to pick her up, how to get out of
a jam (including getting caught
CHEATING!)

And even how to hypnotize a woman
to make her feel aroused for you
- then have the best orgasm of
her life!

Check it out here:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY***

1) Relax, and stop pushing your
chest out. It SCARES her, not
turns her on

2) Hold steady eye contact. The
85/50 rule applies here

3) Keep your hands out of your
pockets and instead dangle them
at your sides

4) MOST IMPORTANTLY: Relax,
relax, relax. Let your tension
and stress just fade away by:

a) exercising more

b) stretching

and

c) getting more practice
meeting women

Overcome These Obstacles To Sex

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5 Things She notices About You

Anonymous — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 22:49:08 CST

In this email, you'll learn
the 5 things ALL women look
for in a man.

You'll discover the 5 parts of
your first impression - and
how to take COMPLETE control
of them.

So when you meet a girl you're
interested in, she's automatically
attracted to you before you even
open your mouth.

I know it sounds like a big
promise NOW, so you'll see
why it's tried and true,
by the time you read the
last word of this email.

>> And if you want to make these
first-impression fixes even STRONGER,
you should try bumping up your
self-confidence.

Because a beautiful, confident woman
is always on the look out for a confident
man to show off to her friends.

So if you'd like the instant confidence
movie stars have - with none of the
hard-work - I highly recommend the
Red Pill program.

You can read all about the
details, below:

http://www.GetTheRedPill.com
>>

Here's the email that set it all
off:

(and you can email me personally
at askvin@vindicarlo.com. I check
it once per day)

***QUESTION & SUCCESS STORY FROM
A READER***

"Vin, I've got an amazing story
to tell you!

Just the other day I was out at
a bar downtown. It was a tiny little
Irish place called "Ulysse's" or
something and I saw the cutest
blonde girl I've ever seen.

I felt so scared, my heart felt
like it got stuck in my throat!

I wanted to RUN not go talk to her,
but I took a deep breath and put
my faith in The Attraction Code
since I just finished reading it
that afternoon.

I walked right up to her and said
"Who's your team? We may be rivals"
because there was a football game
playing.

(I don't even like football lol)

She turned to me and laughed then
we talked for like twenty minutes!

I got her phone number and I'm
writing you this email because
I just got back from my first
date with her.

It was AMAZING. She's so cool
and funny and cute. I just can't
get enough of her, and I owe
it ALL to The Attraction Code
because I never would've had
the confidence to talk to her
just a week ago.

So a HUGE thank you, and now
I've got a little question
to ask you.

I was talking to Jenna (that's
her name) today, and she said
she doesn't really care about
my looks.

I'm not the best looking guy
in the world, but I'm not the
worst. And I look at her and
think "Wow, you're so pretty,
there's no way you'd go for
an average looking guy like
me"

But she said it's more about
how she FEELS around me, and
how I treat her friends than
actually what I look like.

I find it weird that how I
act can turn her on more
than how I look.

Is this common? Are there
some weird things women look
for that us guys are missing?

Anyways, it'd be awesome to
know this but I don't want to
get too wrapped up in it.

I've got another date to go
on soon! Wish me luck!

- Roy P., UK"

>> Hey Roy,

Congrats!

I love your first line.

In fact, it's really similar to
what Patrick says to his first
new girlfriend in The 'Code.

I'm sure you weren't thinking
about it at the time. But I
find that amazing because it
goes to show you how powerful
our SUBconscious mind it.

We automatically "come up" with
stuff to talk about everyday,
and usually it's based on
something we don't even
remember reading, WEEKS
ago.

It's the whole premise behind
subliminal advertising. And if
you open your mind to new info
& experiences, you'll see just
how quickly you become interesting
and captivating to women.

(Just takes one new 'learned'
fact per day)

But enough rambling...

Yes, women look for different
things in men than we look for
in women.

In fact, evolution made US look
for health and beauty in a woman
because it was a signal she could
have babies, then stay alive
long enough to raise our
children.

So we look for young, beautiful
women.

However, evolution made women look
for the biggest, toughest males to
protect their children while they
were growing up.

And give them STRONG GENES, so
our kids were more likely to
survive.

PLUS - She also wanted to know that
you could provide for yourself, her
AND a child or two.

So she looks for men who are dominant,
in control of themselves and leaders
of the groups around them.

Unfortunately, it's MUCH easier to
trick men into thinking a woman's
"young and beautiful" than "top
of the heap, status wise"...

... So fake breasts, make up and
sexy dresses came into fashion.

However, WOMEN have certain things
they look for in men.

And it's NOT 6-pack abs or your
Mercedez Benz.

You may not know them.

And they're CRUCIAL to your
success with women.

So I'm going to teach them to you,
right now:

(Quick Warning: Some are common
sense. That's OK. Just because
it's common SENSE doesn't mean
it's commonly USED.

Which means - Even if you THINK
you KNOW it... Take a second to
figure out if you DO it, every
day.

If you do, move on. You get an
A+ in that category.

If you don't, no sweat. Just make
a conscious effort to improve on
it in the future)

Let's get started:

******************************
TOP FIVE SIGNS WOMEN LOOK FOR
IN A POTENTIAL BOYFRIEND OR
HOOK-UP:
******************************

************************
"HE'S A KEEPER" SIGN #1:
EXCELLENT HYGIENE
************************

Yes, your fingernails count.

So does whether your hair is
shaggy or greasy...

And she can tell if you took
a shower today... or not...

... What's worse, is her
sense of sight, smell and
touch are even STRONGER
than yours.

(Because she was designed to
pick out fruits, berries and
nuts... Then immediately tell
if they're fit to eat)

So if you skip on the wash
and toss cologne on, instead,
you're really treating her
to body odor with a strong,
musky overtone.

Yuck!

Luckily, keeping your hygiene
on point isn't too tough.

You don't need to transform
into Joe Barber or the guy
on the front of Men's Health
magazine.

Simply take a shower every
day. Twice if you hit the gym.

And make sure you get your
hair cut pretty regularly.

As far as skin and nails go,
check out a local dermatologist
once and see if he has any
recommendations.

Then clip your finger and
toenails whenever they get
long.

Pretty damn simple.

But you'd be surprised at
what she'll pick up when
you deviate from your daily
routine.

So keep at it.

And when you first meet her,
here eyes flick from your
hair to your skin to a
quick sniff... and then...

************************
"HE'S A KEEPER" SIGN #2:
STRONG EYE CONTACT
************************

... She's staring straight
into your eyes.

If you've ever heard the phrase
"The Eyes Are The Window To The
Soul"... and you can bet your
ass SHE has...

... Then you know how important
eye contact is.

YES, it may make you nervous -
at first.

I promise you, it quickly goes away.

And YES, you CAN overdo it
until you look like you're
staring her down.

This is easy to avoid:

When you're talking, keep eye
contact about 85% of the time.

When you're listening, keep eye
contact about 85% of the time.

And when you're neither talking
or listening to her talk, keep
eye contact abot 50% of the time
while one of you thinks up
something to say.

It's that easy.

You'll come across confident,
instead of shy.

And creeping her out isn't
even an option.

(For more eye contact tips -
including where to *stare*
to turn her on - Check out
Dominant Sexual Power:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

Eye-contact goes hand-in-hand
with...

************************
"HE'S A KEEPER" SIGN #3:
CONFIDENT BODY LANGUAGE
************************

How you stand tells a woman
TONS about you.

It lets her know how confident
you are.

It shows her whether or not
you're intimidated by her
presence.

And, in fact, it even hints to
her how good you are between
the sheets.

So getting off on the right foot
with body language is EXTREMELY
important.

Here's a hint:

Keep Your Hands Out Of Your
Pockets!

I don't care whether you've got
a bad-ass swagger and you just
tuck your thumbs into your
waist band...

... Women world-wide HATE your
hands when they're crammed in
pockets.

There are no exceptions to that
rule.

Because in the back of her mind,
she associates your HANDS with
your CONFIDENCE.

(There are thousands of books
devoted to the psychological
links between hands and ego,
so I won't dig too deep here)

What you should know, is that
when she can see your hands
- especially the palms -
She feels like she can see
into your personality.

And being open, honest and
unashamed of yourself is a
HUGE turn-on to her.

So try to keep your hands
loose at your sides.

Just let them hang.

As an additional benefit,
leaving your hands out makes
you FEEL more confident, once
the initial 'weirdness' wears
off.

So you'll turn her on, and
relax yourself at the same
time.

It's truly a win-win.

(For more body-language tips,
read The Attraction Code. It's
literally filled with everything
you'll ever need to meet any
woman you ever meet.

And I can make that claim because
The Attraction Code changes YOU,
from the inside out.

It powers you up with confidence,
and teaches you the perfect tools
for picking up women.

So you'll always know what to say,
how to say it and when to say it
so it has the MOST impact.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php)

But when she's done looking at
your hands, she scans straight
to your...

************************
"HE'S A KEEPER" SIGN #4:
YOUR *gulp* FRIENDS
************************

"You can judge a man by the
company he keeps"

I probably butchered that phrase,
but you should memorize THIS version
because it's the one all women use.

Now, she's not looking at your
buddy Tom who drinks too much
and thinking to herself,

"Wow, I hope you're not like
him..."

She's simply using your FRIENDS
- and other cues - To judge your...

************************
***!!MOST IMPORTANT!!***
************************
"HE'S A KEEPER" SIGN #5:
YOUR SOCIAL STATUS
************************

This is the one - and only -
Way to "attract" a woman:

To show her you are a man
with status, who is a leader,
not a follower.

She's been fined tuned over
THOUSANDS of years to pick up
on the subtlest signals...

.. And if she smells for a second
that she's more of a leader
(or 'dominant') than you,
she's instantly unattracted.

The key to remember her isn't
that you have to be the "alpha"
or "head honcho" all the time.

In fact, you don't need a fancy
job title or head-honcho status
at all.

Because just STRIVING to be the
best at what you do will turn a
girl on faster than anything you
can say, or way you can touch
her in bed.

In her brain, it's the ultimate
aphrodisiac.

And it's as simple as doing this:

When you're out with a group
of friends (or with a girl, alone)
be the guy who makes decisions.

For instance:

If you and your pals are debating
whether to stay, go or what to order
for drinks...

... Be the guy who stands up and
says:

"OK, Mike wants to go to another
bar and Fred wants to go home.
So let's go to Sally's Bar,
which is two blocks from
Fred's house"

And then get up, tell your boys
to come with you, then start
out the door.

This tells her three things:

1) You're a leader

2) You make smart, quick decisions
and take action

3) Which both tell her biology:
"This guy can lead others - and
take care of his children. So
you should mate with him"

I know that sounds very scientific,
so try it out for yourself.

You'll notice the results are
ANYTHING but.

Her eyes will take on a "glossed
over by lust" look...

Her attention will become focused
on you, and you alone...

... And she'll start a non-stop
conversation with you for the
rest of the night.

(As long as you don't quickly
screw it up)

I'm going to be honest:

Coming out of nowhere and suggesting
your whole group should head out
won't always seem "cool" or kosher.

In fact, it may seem like out of
left field if you're naturally
shy or quiet.

That's why it's just a small part of
a balanced DOMINANCE diet.

You can pick up every other piece
you'll need in The Attraction Code.

And you can try it for yourself -
Absolutely free.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

And if you're the type of man
who simply needs to know the
"right" words to say, and you'll
be OK with women, then I highly
recommend watching Conversation
Cure.

It's like a 2-day bootcamp for
your conversation brain. And you'll
discover things to say to her the
second you meet her... To get her
number... To lock down the first
date... Before you kiss, the clothes
come off and even seconds from you
two getting intimate.

(In fact, you'll learn a tried and
true technique for keeping your
relationship SOLID - Seconds after
an 'almost breakup')

Check Conversation Cure out, here:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY***

1) Take a good shower, get a haircut
and keep your nails clipped

2) Hold 85% eye contact when you're
talking or listening... and 50%
if you're doing neither

3) Stand with your hands at your
sides - relaxed, not stiff

4) And take control of your friends
when you're out in public by...

5) Being the guy who makes decisions,
when no one else has the guts to
make a call

Do these 5 things, and you'll be
MILES closer to the relationship
you've always wanted with the
girl you've spent hours fantasizing
about.

Top 3 Reasons She Isn't That Into You

datingtips101 — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 13:11:06 CST

Picture this scenario:

You've been dating a girl for
three months now.

When you met her, things were hot,
heavy and passionate.

You couldn't get enough of each other,
and you couldn't keep your hands off
of her.

The sex was intense.

She gave you lots of affection.

You went to sleep with her in your
arms and a smile on your face.

Now, it's three months later.

The attraction has died down.

The passion isn't there and your
sexual "fire" has dimmed down to
barely a fluttering spark.

In fact, you haven't been intimate
with your woman for two whole weeks.

And there's no sign of sexual
satisfaction in the near future,
either.

What went wrong?

How can you fix it?

And WHO HAS TO CHANGE?
You... or her?

In this email, I'm going to teach
you the 3 main reasons women go
"stale" in relationships.

You'll learn how to avoid this
pitfalls, and a few techniques
to rekindle the spark of attraction,
even when it's on the verge of
being blown out.

Best of all - If you save this email
and keep it's lessons for future use
- You'll never have to worry about
your girlfriend cheating or wandering
to another man for love.

So pay close attention.

>> And if you're looking for sexual
satisfaction as a POWERFUL man,
I highly recommend you check out
the Dominant Sexual Power program.

In it, you'll learn how to reclaim
your sexual power... Take back CONTROL
of your sex life... And make any woman
attracted to you in as little as a few
SECONDS - Plus, you'll learn how to sleep
with her only hours after you meet her.

Check it out:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
>>

Today's email was inspired by this
question from a reader - Just like you.

If you'd like to get your question
answered, send me an email:
askvin@vindicarlo.com

I check it personally once per day,
and I try to answer every question.

Sometimes it's personal, from me to
you. And sometimes I think your question
can help HUNDREDS of others.

Like this one, below:

***QUESTION AND SUCCESS STORY FROM
A READER***

"Hey Vin,

Thanks for the great emails, I've been
reading them every day for the last
four months and I've gotten better
and better with women. It's insane.

I met this awesome blonde girl with
great **** and an amazing personality.
She's funny, intelligent and she's
one of those quality girls you don't
meet in a bar or club.

I started talking to her in a Starbucks
after you told me that coffee shops were
a great place to meet women. She was
reading a book so I walked up to her
and asked her how she liked it.

It was really simple, just like you
said and we had a conversation for
about twenty minutes. I got her phone
number and then we went on a few dates.

Well, we've been dating for a few
months now and things are going
downhill. I don't know where I went
wrong. We haven't had sex in forever
and she doesn't really seem to be
into me anymore.

I mean, she barely returns my calls
or texts and she doesn't seem to be
excited by me when I'm around.

Where did I go wrong? Did I lose the
spark? She's kind of focused super
hard on her job and school so maybe
she's just focused I guess? What do
I do?

I really like this girl and I don't
want to lose her for good so help
me out Vin! I really need some
advice!

- Joey Q., Colorado"

>>> Hey Joey,

Thanks for the kind words about
the emails :-)

You'd be surprised how many emails
I get per day that are success
stories from the techniques in
these emails ALONE.

Nevermind the awesome successes
guys who read The Attraction Code
and watch other programs get.

It just goes to show you that
it's easy to help people,
if you're really devoted
to giving away great
information.

Anyways, let's move on to
your situation...

On one hand, I'm happy for you.

You managed to meet a great girl,
who seems like a great fit for you.

After all, you two have been
dating for three months.

Three whole months!

There was a time in my life when
three whole weeks was a long
relationship.

And there were times in my life
where three whole minutes was
all the time I could force a
girl to talk to me.

So congrats, big time.

Now let's get into your
concerns...

You say your girl just isn't
that passionate any more.

************************
WAYS YOU KNOW SHE'S READY
TO LEAVE NUMBER ONE:
************************

And your sex life has pretty
much dried up.

I've noticed women love to
control the sex in order to
manipulate men into behaving
the way she wants you to.

(Oddly enough, changing your
behavior to make her happy
will make her LESS attracted
to you. So she's really
shooting herself in the
foot)

The best way to handle
her controlling sex is
to rekindle the passion
in your romance.

Use lots of sexual tension
techniques.

Use lots of sensual languaging.

And most of all, be VERY dominant
with her - Especially in bed.

Because she's losing attraction
for you because SHE'S now the
one in control.

And no woman can feel hot for
a guy who lets her take control.

In - or out - Of bed.

Obviously, you can't rape her
or force her to do anything
she doesn't want to do.

But you can get her very aroused
hot and heavy for you. In fact,
check out DSP for some amazing
techniques that are too raw
to write about here:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

*************************
WAYS YOU KNOW SHE'S READY
TO LEAVE NUMBER TWO:
*************************

And even worse, she's started
to pull away from you, big time.

She's stopped picking up your calls
and returning your texts.

Even though you're officially dating!

Why the hell would she do that?
Simple:

She feels like YOU'RE chasing
and SHE'S leading.

The shift in power is all out of
whack, and you need to fix it
before she will love you again.

It's pretty simple, as far as
phone and text stuff, though.

Just make sure she texts and calls
you more than you text and call
her.

There are a lot of ways to "bait"
her into this. Especially by
sending her texts with tons
of Intrigue.

Texts like:

"OMG I just saw you twin"

or

"You'll never believe this..."

even

"lol No u didn't!"

Anything that gets her texting
you back.

Then just make sure she's the
one who sends the last text.

And you're all gravy.

In the grand scheme of things
this won't give you a HUGE
boost in dominance.

But where you're at, every little
bit counts.

Finally...

*************************
WAYS YOU KNOW SHE'S READY
TO LEAVE NUMBER THREE:
*************************

She focused on things like work
and school, and you immediately
thought it had something to do
with you screwing up.

Hey, sometimes work is just work.

Sometimes school is just school.

And if you're relaxed about it,
they won't turn into anything
bigger.

But if you get clingy and needy
when she starts to pull away,
she knows she's got you by
the balls.

And trust me - She's not letting
up on the vice grip any time
soon.

So this mistake is already in
the past.

Hindsight is 20/20, right?

But here's how you can keep
your woman from hooking you
by the gonads in the future:

When she needs space, give
her space!

It ain't rocket science, but
most men screw this up big
time.

ESPECIALLY in new relationships,
where the romance is the most
fragile.

You get "into" a girl.

The romance is hot and passionate.

And then she starts to pull away.

She needs space.

You either:

a) Give it to her

or

b) Try to figure out where YOU
went wrong

... And your choice, even if it's
only a split second long, will
change the relationship forever.

Because as soon as you get needy,
she has all the power.

And trust me, she'll abuse it
until your relationship pans
out like this situation did,
today.

She'll start withholding sex,
because she feels her *****
is more valuable than your
dick.

She'll start pulling away emotionally
because she thinks you can't handle
her need for space.

She'll start giving orders and
commands instead of helping out
with YOUR vision, because she senses
your lack of dominance in the
relationship.

And no matter what happens, you're
in for a bumpy ride.

Most of the time, you're on a straight
road to relationship disaster.

Unfortunately, there's only one
way to right this type of mistake.

And that's to never make it in
the first place!

So before you chase after ANY woman,
ask yourself one thing:

"Am I Chasing, Or Am I Leading?"

If you're not leading, don't DO it,
don't SAY it, don't even THINK
about it... Because it's the
wrong move to make.

Instead, keep thinking of possible
ways to handle that situation until
you're LEADING - Not following.

You'll be more dominant in your
relationship, she'll respect you
more, your sex will stay passionate
and never again will you suffer
through the "****** relationship
blues"

Now, if you want more information
about Dominance - including a step-by-
step "how to" manual for getting your
dating life on track - Check out
The Attraction Code:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

And if you want the system I designed
to get back at MY ex-gf, after this same
situation happened to me, check out the
Dominant Sexual Power program, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY***

1) Take back you DOMINANCE.

Lead, don't follow.

2) Use SEXUAL TENSION to re-spark
her sexual attraction for you.

So the sex is PASSIONATE again.

3) Ask yourself, "Am I CHASING
Or Am I LEADING?"

And never do anything that makes
you chase, if you can possibly
think of something that helps
you lead.

3 Signs She's Thinking of Cheating

Anonymous — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 17:29:26 CST

Dating's a contact sport.

And if you're in "the game" for
any period of time what-so-ever,
you're going to meet a girl.

Maybe even "the" girl.

She's funny, intelligent, smart,
kind and sensitive. The sex is
great and your friends / family
love her.

Best of all -

She's agreed to be your girlfriend.

Fast forward a few months... Sometimes
even a few weeks...

... All of the sudden, you're worried
about her LEAVING you.

She's acting shady.

She's out with MALE friends.

And she doesn't always pick up your
calls or answer your texts.

So what do you do?

And when should you worry?

In this email, I'm going to reveal
the 3 sure-fire warning signals
that reveal - without fail -
She is thinking about cheating.

And you'll also learn an easy,
step-by-step system to counter
each way, individually.

>> You should know that almost ALL
cheating is caused by 'lack' or 'loss'
of sexual attraction. (As I'm about to
reveal, in a second)

And keeping up an "attractive front"
or "acting dominant" gets tiring and
even PAINFUL as the act wears on.

So if you'd like to BECOME the attractive
guy she brags about to her friends, and
never again need to even WORRY about
the warning signals you'll learn below,
I highly recommend reading The Attraction
Code.

Just one read through will change the
way you ACT around women, for good.
And use just ONE of the techniques
you learn in Chapter 3, because you'll
be hooked on the new, powerful
attraction even MARRIED women
give you.

You can read all about it, below:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php
>>

Today's email was inspired by this
email I got, from a reader just like
you.

(And if YOU want to email me, send
a note to askvin@vindicarlo.com.
I read them all, personally, once
per day)

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"Hey Vin,

Because of The Attraction Code and
The Red Pill I'm dating this amazing
woman.

Shes smart, funny and she's always nice
to other people. Not to mention she's a
firecracker in bed and we always have
a blast when we're together.

I met her at a Barnes and Noble store
in downtown Chicago where I used the
"Hey, I noticed you reading that book
and I thought you looked super cute
and focused" opener that you talk
about in your emails all the time.

She loved it so I touched her using
the DEL and Secrets of Sexual Tension
and in no time she gave me her phone
number because she had to leave.

I think she was going to a friends house
for a party or something. I forget but
it doesn't matter because it all worked
out.

We went on a first date and spent the
night together. She cooked breakfast
and I relaxed and then was on my way
in the morning.

We grew together and started getting
closer and closer as time when on.
Now I'm a romantic at heart, so I
keep trying to please her as much
as possible. But it seems no matter
WHAT I do, she's drifting farther
away.

I've told her I'm going to stop spending
time with my friends and start hanging
out with her more. I've started buying
her little gifts and trinkets. And the
last time she was sick I came over
and made her soup.

Every single time she seems happy
and still she kind of ignores me,
or finds ways to get around plans
with me or even flirts with other
guys in front of me!

It pisses me off SO much because I
see myself turning into Patrick from
the Attraction Code to the point
I'm even hitting on other girls at
the bar to try to make my girlfriend
jealous.

I guess I can't see the forest because
I'm in the trees, so I REALLY need your
help!

I either want to keep her (because I
really love her Vin) or I want to get
my ******* balls back!

I'm extremely frustrated and I need
your help. HELP!

- Frank C., Chicago IL"

>>> Wow Frank,

You got quite a problem there.

First, a couple of good things:

1) You notice you're acting a little
less dominant.

In fact, you even cited the "Patrick"
story in The Attraction Code, so I
know you're on the right path.

But like you put it, you "can't see
the forest because you're stuck in
the trees"

(Love that line. I'm going to steal
it, if you don't mind :-)

2) You see her slipping away.

Most men don't notice this until it's
YEARS too late.

Some real WARNING SIGNS are:

***************************
SIGNS SHE'S DRIFTING AWAY:
SHE'S FLIRTING AROUND
**************************

Honestly, this is something you
shouldn't tolerate.

It's blatantly disrespectful.

I know modern media and today's sitcom
has you sitting back and LAUGHING at
it on TV...

... But it's not OK. Because it's NOT
your ******* job to make her like easy
while she's practically cheating on
your in public.

In fact, if she disrespects you, insults
you verbally, or attacks you physically,
you should get the hell out of that
relationship. ASAP.

Men get a bad rap lately.

We're supposed to "take" the brunt
of the blame and be the butt of the
dating jokes.

And honestly, if you let her continue
that way, you're going to lose her
for good.

Remember - Women love strong men.

Men who are DOMINANT, relative to her.

Ie. men who will stand up to her ********,
and let her know when she's acting like
a child.

That doesn't mean you EVER need to "put
her in her place"

But true as the sky is blue means you
need to stand up for yourself, and respect
yourself as a man.

*************************
SIGN SHE'S DRIFTING AWAY:
YOUR SEX LIFE GOES STALE
*************************

This is the easiest - and most common -
To spot.

You get into a relationship, and the
sex is red hot.

In fact, the more you make love and
explore each other's bodies, the more
and more passionate you both get.

Soon, you've hit your sexual pinnacle,
and you both can't stop touching each
other.

... Then it's all downhill from there.

You start seeing sex as a routine.

You have sex the same time, and the
same place, every time you do it.

You even use the same positions,
and feel mildly unfulfilled each
and every time.

There are two reasons your love life
may be slowly grinding to a halt:

1) The Sex Lacks Variety And Spice

Women are very picky, sexually.

What turns her on can range from
being dominated (and even tied
up in some girl's fantasies) to
an intimate lover who makes her
feel like a princess.

And - as her boyfriend - It's your
sexual job to fulfill each and
every one of these roles.

It's tough, I know, but it's
nowhere near impossible.

The real trick to keep the VARIETY
HIGH in your sex life.

Even if it's just the positions,
length, amount of orgasms she
has and places you make love.

Because if - in her mind - The
last four or five times you two
were intimate were DIFFERENT,
she'll automatically put you
in the "great lover" category.

Even if the sex was OK, or average
at best.

Honestly, it's easy to be great in bed
because 90% of her orgasm starts in
her mind.

Making her feel sexy... Dominated...
And safe, all in one, will give her
a sexual experience she'll RAVE to
her friends about.

For the other 10% - the technical and
easy ways to 'warm her up' quickly -
I'd recommend a great sex book like
The Sex God Method, or my program:
Dominant Sexual Power.

In DSP, I teach you the 90% to turn her
on, and the 10% to get her off. And you'll
learn it gradually or all at once.

It's your choice, the power is in your
hands, and I highly recommend you
read all about it, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

2) She's Not Feeling Dominated Enough

You started the relationship a white
knight in shining armor.

A stallion. Her protector. And a guy
she could picture living her life
supporting.

(At least, in her head you did)

And along the way, you started "giving
up" things for her.

Like time with your friends.

Some of your hobbies.

Your free time when she was sick.

(Especially because you got
nothing - not even sex, I assume -
In return)

And the more you invest in the
relationship like that, without
requiring her to "give back",
the more she puts your in the
"beta / friend category", and
less in the "boyfriend / lover
category"

(And the Friend Zone is a place you
want to avoid EVER being, with your
girlfriend)

What happened? Simple:

You lost your dominance.

And you gave up your edge.

The "singles scene" keeps you sharp.

You're "toned" in a mental way, and
are used to talking up women in a
bar scene, then getting her attracted
to you.

Then once you date a single woman for
awhile, your conversation skills slip
back to 'remedial'

Sometimes even worse than when you
started out - Especially if you only
"found your courage" a little while
ago.

So what you REALLY need is a boost
of self-confidence and dominance.

I recommend you re-read The Attraction
Code, and follow the instructions.

However, if you want a QUICK FIX,
right now, try this:

FROM NOW ON

Stay conscious of everything you do
and say to her.

And make sure you're doing things because
you WANT to - Not because you're trying
to make her happy.

Remember that she wants to work for you.

She wants YOU to be the stud-man she
feels LUCKY to be around.

And you should act like him, at all
times.

(Even when you two are sitting on the
couch, watching a movie)

Have sex early, variety ridden and often.

And when it comes to making decisions,
voice your opinion and have the final
say.

It's sort of like your parents or grandparents
had relationships -- Very dominant and
in control -- Because women were HAPPY
at that time.

Thousands of years of sexual history
SUPPORT it.

So do it.

Be her dominant man.

And she'll never dream of leaving you.

*************************
SIGN SHE'S DRIFTING AWAY:
SHE TELLS YOU WHY SHE'S
*NOT* ATTRACTED TO HIM
*************************

This one will give you nightmares.

However, it's the best and most truthful
sign I've seen in my own dating life.

So I suggest you give it a GOOD
amount of thought:

If She "Disqualifies" A Man In Her Life
Who's A Pretty Good-Looking Guy, She's
Either Thinking About - Or Already -
Sleeping With Him.

And it's one of those cold, harsh
realities about dating.

Why is this the truth? Because it's
her way of not getting caught.

Think about it - If she told you
ALL the reasons this guy isn't
good for her, you'd never suspect
they were having an "extra-relationship"
relationship.

So if you suspected her of cheating,
you'd suspect her with someone
else.

And all signs would point to her
NOT sleeping with him.

Her plan works, and you're never
the wiser.

So when she goes out of her way
to tell you why she's NOT sleeping
with another guy...

... Keep your guard up, and pay
extra attention to your relationship.

Spend more time together.

Do more fun things together.

Have better sex.

And basically make your relationship:

A) Fun

B) Exciting

C) Sexual

and

D) Power-Balanced

She'll feel no reason to cheat,
or need to leave.

And you'll both be much, MUCH happier.

You'll notice that all three warning
signs were actually subtle triggers
for the same problem:

The Communication Between You Two
Is Starting To Crumble

And the way to bring it back is
to either make her respect you
more through sex and dominance...

... Or to open up brand-new waves
of communication, and keep things
fun and light.

If you'd like to make your stale relationship
a hot, spicy sexcapade again, I highly
recommend you use the tips in the
Dominant Sexual Power program.

Because you'll discover how to turn her
on, mentally AND physically... With only
your words, touch and even eye contact,
if you wish.

It's truly the most effective program
ever created for taking back your sexual
power and creating mouth watering sexual
tension for her.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you'd like to open up new ways
of communication, and inject more fun,
confident playfulness into your
life, try watching Conversation Cure.

In it, 5 of the masters of conversation
reveal how to talk to your girlfriend
to get her turned on as the first night
you two had sex.

Plus, there's a whole section on "damage
control" and relationship management.

AND - If you two unfortunately break up -
You'll be armed with every technique
under the sun for meeting a new woman,
so you'll never have a "blank" mind
or awkward silence, ever again.

You can read more about it, here:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

AND FOR TOMORROW---

Take these steps, with YOUR relationship:

1) Be more dominant, and make her work
for your attention and sex

2) Inject Variety into your sex life,
by "changing it up" and introducing
new techniques, places and fantasies

3) Turn "date nights" into fun activities,
instead of another movie night by the
TV

PLUS - Watch out for these 3 warning
signs that your relationship is
on the rocks:

A) She's Flirting Around

B) Sex Is Getting Scarce

C) And She's Down-Talking Other
Men

... Ignore them at your own peril.

Fix them with the ideas above.

signs of cheating

Anonymous — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 17:26:43 CST

Thank You

Anonymous — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 23:22:53 CST

These two simple words
are unimpressive by
themselves.

Yet when you put them together,
you have the 'magic key' to making
almost ANY person in the world
like you.

(And yes - Women are FULLY able
to be seduced with these two little
words)

But honestly, in this email, I just
want to take a little time to Thank
YOU for reading these emails.

I want to Thank YOU for using the
techniques I've taught you.

And I want to Thank YOU for making
my life - teaching men how to meet
women, as a JOB - Possible.

Even damn rewarding, 99% of the time.

So in this email, I'm going to show
you how to use our two new favorite
words to make women - and people -
Feel like you've known them for
years, even if you just met
them.

And I'm going to show you how to
nab a whole lot of self-confidence
for just a dollar.

(As my Thank YOU, to you)

So let's get started:

*****************************
WHY IS THANK YOU SO POWERFUL?
*****************************

Simple:

Women - and men - Like to be noticed.

Deep down inside you, you feel 'better'
at one thing than most other people.

Or even your best buddy. Your friend.
Your girlfriend. Your boss.

It doesn't matter who you're more
skilled than. And it doesn't matter
what the skill is.

Because what's really important is the
FEELING being 'better' at this skill
gives YOU.

Because every person alive - man or
woman - Has that same feeling buried
deep down inside of THEM.

And letting them know you appreciate,
even RESPECT that side of her will
instantly open her heart to you,
without you doing any work
whatsoever.

I know this sounds touchy-feely.

And I know you may not think of
a way to use it, immediately.

So try these simple tricks out
for yourself:

* DO YOU WANT BETTER SERVICE AT
ANY RESTAURANT OR CLUB IN THE WORLD?

Next time your waitress or bartender
comes over, make sure to tip well
and say "Thank You"

Even if you're only getting a refill
or glass of water.

Because you become the customer or
client who makes them feel good
and appreciated.

So you instantly receive better service
than other "yahoos" who try to talk
down to them.

Or even "put them in their place"

(You'd be surprised how horribly
that can backfire. Picture spit
in your food - But WORSE!)

* WOULD YOU LIKE TO CUT IN LINE
AT YOUR LOCAL DELI? OR EVEN GET
FREE FOOD AND AWESOME DISCOUNTS?

Do TWO things:

1) Say Thank You every time you
buy a sandwich or something to
drink

and

2) Learn everyone's name, and USE
it.

Getting to know Joe behind the counter
will pay off in ways you couldn't
begin to imagine.

Just a few examples:

a) You'll get faster, better service
with better food and less of a wait
in line

b) If ANY beautiful woman sees you're
on a first-name basis with the people
working their, she'll instantly think
of you as a "good guy" (or even "popular")
so you become MUCH more attractive to
her

c) And you never know who Joe behind
the counter knows.

So you may get an easy introduction to
someone who could help your career,
because of your weekly chats with the
guy who makes your sandwich.

PLUS - Going to the store helps you
brush up on your social skills,
instead of feeling like a chore.

(You know how much EASIER it is
to meet women when you're 'warmed
up')

AND - If you closely study Joe's
mannerisms, you can even LEARN
from how he interacts with
women.

So you'll not only learn the
basics and tactics from ME.

You can also have a real, live
role-model to help you with
women.

In fact, finding Tony (my role-model
when I was starting out) was
a crucial turning point that
rocketed me to success with
women.

And you could even stumble onto
the same relationship, simply
by being interested in other
people.

* AND DO YOU WANT A HEALTHY DOSE
OF CONFIDENCE AND SELF-RESPECT?

Follow the "Golden Rule":

Do unto others as you'd have them
do unto you.

I don't stick to any one religion.

And I'm not even sure I quoted
it perfectly.

But the wisdom in that one sentence
has been taught for THOUSANDS of years,
from 4000 years ago in ancient Persia...

... To Confucius, 2400 years ago...

... And even Shakespeare, just a few
hundred years ago.

If You Want To FEEL Good, Make OTHER
PEOPLE Feel Good

And they'll repay the favor ten-fold.

For instance, I once visited the
Ernest Hemingway house in Key West
while I was on vacation.

And every thirty minutes, there
was a guided tour.

Our guide was funny. He was quirky.
And my girlfriend and I paid close
attention to everything he said,
while the people around us snickered
and looked lost.

During the tour - He kept me and my
girlfriend close by his side, telling
us stories from the house that he
didn't share with most groups.

And after the tour - He pulled us aside,
took a picture for us and told us little-
known stories about Hemingway's life for
a whole hour and a half.

(Remember - These were half hour tours.
And I'm a pretty big Hemingway fan.
So I was very excited)

Now, you may be wondering if it was
the honest appreciation for his
passion...

... Or the pretty girlfriend...

... That made this man become a quick
friend of mine.

Honestly, I couldn't tell you.

I like to think it was both.

And in these emails, as well as every
one of my programs, I teach you how to
do both things:

1) Attract Beautiful Women

and

2) Be Confident And Persuasive To
Other People

... So it doesn't matter WHICH works,
as long as it works.

That's my motto ;-)

And to show you my appreciation for
you reading these emails for this
long, I want to give you a slight
gift:

I want to boost your confidence for
just a dollar.

In the Red Pill program, I share EVERY
easy way I know to power up your
confidence.

And I normally tell you to pay whatever
you think it's worth.

But today, I want you to put in the
smallest number you can: one dollar.

I want to ship this package out to
your house at COMPLETELY my risk
and cost.

Because I am thankful - and grateful -
You let me into your life, each and
every other day.

So head on over to http://www.GetTheRedPill.com
and claim your little package of confidence
for just a dollar.

(Hell, if you can find out how to
put a smaller number in, go lower.
The tech guy just told me a dollar's
as low as it goes)

And start showing appreciation for the
people in YOUR life.

It will boost your confidence.

It will boost your social status.

And it will boost how you feel about
yourself.

Which rocks - Because women are attracted to
all three.

How To Lock Down A Wild Woman

datingtips101 — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 01:02:29 CST

Have you ever met a woman who was so
passionate... So emotional... So intense
... And so FIREY that you HAD to get
to know her?

She had this "spark" - a type of sexuality
you couldn't quite put your finger on -
That made her practically IRRESISTIBLE.

And every time you talked to her, your
heart beat a little faster, your palms
got sweaty and you couldn't help but
picture her naked...

Thing is, she's hard as hell to pin down.

She's independent, and let's every man
know it.

Every guy wants her. Few can have her.

And in this email, I'm going to share
my best technique for making a "wild"
woman beg you to take her home.

(This tip - and the system behind it -
Are taken directly from my Dominant Sexual
Power program. So if you want to know
MORE techniques like this one, please
visit http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

I got this idea from a question from
a reader, just like you...

(If you want YOUR question answered,
please send it to askvin@vindicarlo.com)

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"Hey Vin,

I've received a few of your emails now
and it is really great stuff. I have a
scenario that you've probably heard
before, but I suck with women
so I need help...

I met a girl a couple months ago (through
a friend) that I knew immediately was my
type.

She is only 21 and I'm 28 and I didn't think
I had a realistic shot with her.

Well I got her number that night and
kept in contact through text and saw
her a couple times where she works
(casually with friends) - so I laid
a little ground work.

She started getting pretty friendly
with me (hugs, etc.), so I asked her out
- she said 'yes.'

She was difficult to pin down, so I
showed up to a friend's birthday party
where I knew she would be.

Well we hit it off and then spent the next
16+ hours together - it was one of the
greatest nights of my life!

(We had a shower, she cooked breakfast,
the whole nine yards).

So here it is a week later and she is
again hard to pin down. I told her I want
to see her again and she was open to the
idea, but I'm getting the impression
that she's just not that in to me

(mainly because we went straight to bed
instead of getting to know each other
in depth)

I like this girl, but she is a wild-child
(seriously kind of crazy, but I like it)
and I'm pretty sure I was just in the right
place at the right time.

How do I get her to see me again
and start to make it a regular
thing?

Thanks,

- Luke"

>>> Hey Luke,

First of all - You don't suck with women.

Period.

I mean, you got a 21 year old hottie back
to your / her place for a shower and
breakfast.

You're doing FINE, man.

Second, you've got a wild child on your
hands.

There's a little good and a little bad
that comes with dating a passionate
woman.

HERE'S THE GOOD:

* She's probably amazing in bed

* When she wants to be, she can be an
incredible girlfriend

* She's extremely emotional - Which
rocks when she's happy

* And she's more than likely a fire-
cracker who makes your friends
crazy jealous of you

HERE'S THE BAD:

* She's probably crazy

* When she wants to, she can make your
life a living hell

* She's extremely emotional - Which
SUCKS when she's pissed

* And she probably gets attention
from EVERY guy within a hundred miles.

No matter if he's bigger, richer or
better looking than you.

So how do you tame this girl,
and turn her into your girlfriend?

Well, you already made one crucial
mistake:

**Pulling the "I want this to be
a regular thing" card, a little
TOO early**

It's nice to let her know you
want to see her again.

ESPECIALLY after sex, so she doesn't
feel used.

However, implying that you want
ANY commitment at all will scare
this type of woman away.

She'll run for the hills.

And - sadly - Because she's
passionate, she makes up her
mind quickly, and will never
come back to you.

Enough of that doom n gloom
********...

********************************
HERE'S HOW TO LOCK DOWN A FIREY
WOMAN, AND TURN HER INTO YOUR
GIRLFRIEND, HOOKUP OR WIFE:
********************************

It's ALL about a topic I like to
call "Compliance"

Compliance is basically a fancy
word that means "getting her to
work for you"

And it's important for two reasons:

1) COMPLIANCE BUILDS LOYALTY

Think back to an old boss of yours
who got you to go out of your way
for him.

Not just a little bit. He put you
through the ringer.

Chances are, you probably thought,
"Damn, this guys a hardass. I'd
love to leave this job, but somethings
keeping me here, and it sure isn't
the money"

That "something" is Compliance.

And what's super-sneaky, is your
brain doesn't REGISTER compliance.

In other words, when someone has
compliance on you, your brain
"makes up" reasons to be loyal
to them, because it doesn't
FULLY grasp what's going on.

That's why women stay with men
who beat them - Sometimes for
dangerous lengths of time:

Because she suffers through emotional
and physical stress, so she's HIGHLY
invested in the relationship.

She TELLS other people that "deep
down he loves her", but it's
really just the compliance.

Now, that's a DARK way of using
it. So in this email, I'll show
you an easy way to make her loyal
to you - That makes her, and your
life BETTER

2) IT GIVES HER A HIGHER PURPOSE

Often, women are "wild" because
she has no higher goals or purpose.

So she wastes her time partying
every night, or flirting with
this guy and the next.

The cool thing about compliance
(and to a higher extent "vision",
which I also talk about in DSP
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)
is that it gives her a GOAL in
life.

And it links this goal to you.

So A) She's more focused and
B) She's focused because of you.

Think of it like a coach on a
sports team who saw potential
in you.

You started to see potential in
yourself.

And because of that, you performed
MUCH better on the field.

Now let's talk about how to
GIVE her this vision...

*****************************
DICARLO COMPLIANCE TECHNIQUE:
"HOW TO TAME A WILD WOMAN"
*****************************

I call this technique "Vision
Compliance", because it combines
Vision, and Compliance.

Nifty, right? Thought so. :-)

Basically, there are three steps:

(and the best part is, there's
only ONE that actually involves
HER)

******************************
STEP ONE: DISCOVER YOUR VISION
******************************

This one's easy:

Sit down in a comfy chair,
or even lay back in your
favorite couch.

Think about what you LOVE to
do, more than anything else.

And put yourself in the shoes
of your PERFECT life. 5. 10.
Even 1 or 2 years down the
road.

That's your vision.

It could be an amazing hobby
of yours.

It could even be your job.

Whatever it is, make sure
you have it firm in your
mind before moving onto
the next step.

Which is...

****************************
STEP TWO: LAY OUT COMPLIANCE
****************************

You'll need a pencil and a piece
of paper.

Put a line down the middle,
and label the left side:

"Vision"

and the right side:

"How She Can Help"

Then start jotting down things
you'd like to do or own,
related to your vision.

For example: If you're a musician
like me, you may write "Get a new
guitar" or "Do a show with 1000+
people in attendance"

And don't worry about the right
column for now.

Just write, write, write, write,
write, write, write.

Done? Great!

Now we move on to the right column,
titled "How She Can Help"

This one's kinda self-explanatory.

So if you wrote: "Get a new guitar"
in the left column, you could use
any of these for the right:

* "She buys me a guitar"

* "She helps me shop around for great
prices"

* "She drives me around to test out
guitars, until I find one I like"

.. Or for the "Play a concert with
1,000+ people in attendance", you
may write:

* "She helps me with PR and promotion"

* "She contacts some clubs and radio
stations to sell tickets"

* "She keeps her ears and eyes out for
talented people for me to jam with"

Or whatever else fits YOUR vision.

Now, once you have this list,
it's time to get HER involved...

*************************
STEP THREE: MAKE HER WORK
FOR YOU
**************************

"Work" isn't the best word.

I like "contribute to my lifestyle"
better.

Because when you think about it,
that's what women are biologically
trained to do:

To Help Their Man Become A
Success.

So when you tell her all about
your Vision for your life, and
ask her to help out...

... She'll eagerly hop on board,
with just a few subtle hints about
what you want her to do.

Now, you can't just come out and
say "Hey baby, buy me that new
guitar"

Because she'll look at you weird,
and maybe even tell you to get
lost.

Which kind of screws up what we're
going for, here.

So instead, I like to drop hints
like:

"Baby, I could make such great music
if I had that guitar"

or

"I bet we could play that concert
for sure, if we had a radio station
to promote us"

Just drop subtle hints, and you'd
be surprised what a motivated woman
who cares about you will do.

For a few more of my more specific
ways to make this happen... As well
as details to turn her on with your
words... How to make her sexually
ADDICTED to your touch... How to
get ANY woman into bed in 2-4 hours...

... And even how to make any hot
woman so fiercely loyal, she wouldn't
DARE sleep with another man while
you two are together... You should
really listen to the Dominant Sexual
Power program.

You'll walk with your head held high,
and a sexual confidence everyone around
you will notice.

And being great in bed is SURE to
follow. (REMEMBER: Her orgasm is
90% MENTAL)

Here are all the details:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And HERE'S HOW TO USE THIS EMAIL BEST:

1) Discover your vision

2) Make your vision list

3) Decide how she can help your
vision

4) Give her hints and direction to
help you out

5) Enjoy a fiesty - but LOYAL -
Girlfriend

1 Way To Talk Less and Still Pick Her Up

datingtips101 — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 19:00:15 CST

I've got a wicked sunburn.

Bright red, pain, peeling and the whole
works.

But this sun burn is going to help YOU
meet more women TODAY - While saying
MUCH less, and doing almost NO real
work.

Because in this email, I'm going to
reveal one book that's influenced
my own life (and the lives of MILLIONS
of others)... And... I'm going to
share with you a step-by-step
formula for making her MORE
attracted to you... Aching to
come home with you... And
CONVINCED you're the most
interesting person she's
ever met.

All without much work.

And sometimes without saying a
WORD.

>> Would you like a bullet-proof toolkit
of questions... Jokes... Stories... and
perfect "one-liners" at your fingertips,
just in case you want to get a word in,
edgewise?

If so, I highly recommend the Conversation
CURE program because it's jam-packed with
these bite-sized pieces of chit chat and
a WHOLE bunch more. Check it out:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php
>>

It was all inspired by THIS question,
from a reader just like you.

So check it out:

***QUESTION FROM A READER***
"First of all, thanks for your emails.
They're killer and I feel a lot more
confident after reading them.

Thing is I'm a quiet guy by nature.
I tend to prefer to be alone or by
myself instead of around other people.
I sometimes find excuses not to go to
parties because I feel like everyone
else has their social circle and I
don't want to intrude into their
"worlds", even if I knew how.

So I wanted to know, is there a way
I can break into these groups without
immediately coming across like an
outsider?

And do you know a way to talk to girls
without doing a lot of the talking?
The clubs my friends like to go to
are LOUD and women have a tough
time hearing me.

Any advice would rock, and thanks
again for everything.

- Matt K., New York City"

>>> Hey Matt,

Yeah, New York City clubs are ridiculous.

Living her the past couple of years has
really made me miss - and appreciate -
The good old country quiet.

(I grew up in Connecticut, so I haven't
COMPLETELY forgot what a tree looks like)

So you're question is a great one,
and something I faced a LOT, when
I started going to bars and clubs
alone.

In fact, I used to sit in the corner,
holding my drink, thinking of a way
to talk to people...

... Even taking a few steps in the
right direction...

... And then see them 'close off' their
group with their bodies.

So I'd walk back to where I was before,
and feel more awkward than ever.

(If this has happened to you - even once -
I don't need to tell you how ridiculous
I felt)

But early on, when I was starting to learn
how to meet women, I stumbled across a
national best-selling book that influenced
almost every area of my life.

In fact, it's the same book I found buried
in my parents house when I visited them
last week, in Florida.

(Yeah, not the best time of year,
I know)

It's a book written by the famous Dale
Carnegie titled "How To Win Friends
And Influence People"

Now, the name is very sketchy and
even turned me off at first.

In fact, I refused to read it for a
few years until I heard 'old time'
pick-up artists like Mystery and
Neil Strauss recommend it.

(We used to chat pretty frequently)

So I opened it up. Read a few pages.

And I was hooked, for life.

Because this little book packs more
life-lessons into a few hundred
pages than ANYTHING you could
read about meeting women,
alone.

Because if you want to get good with
PEOPLE in general, it has some of the
BEST advice you've ever discovered.

And because once you're good with
people, you'll get TONS more out of
ANY advice written about being
good with women.

Because you'll know women, from a
HUMAN perspective.

And just to give you a taste of
how badass this book is, I'm going
to share with you EXACTLY what I
learned about how to pick up a woman
without saying damn near ANYTHING.

And I discovered this technique,
straight out of Dale Carnegie's
book.

******************************
HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN SEE YOU
AS THE MOST INTERESTING, SEXY
AND FASCINATING MAN SHE'S EVER
TALKED TO - WITHOUT SAYING A
WORD!
******************************

And I'm going to back EVERY word
of that up. Just you watch. :-)

**********************
HERE'S THE BASIC IDEA:
**********************

People like to feel important.

In fact, I'd wager that if you walked
down an average road and paid an
average woman an average compliment...

... Well, you'd flat-out make her
day.

She'd tell her friends about you.

Or she'd keep it to herself, and smile
about it later on.

Not everyone wants to be a rock star.

And you may not want to feel "better"
or "bigger" than anyone else.

But deep down, some part of you likes
to feel special and important.

It's natural, and it's in all of us.

*************************
AND HERE'S WHERE IT GETS
INTERESTING:
*************************

Because people like PEOPLE who make
them feel important.

Remember a person who impacted your life
in a POSITIVE way.

Someone who made you feel "on top of the
world"

Do you remember how they did it? Great.

Usually, they helped you unlock a side
of yourself... or notice something you
already knew... That made you feel
special or important.

And because YOU felt good, you naturally
associated THEM with your good feelings.

This type of association is extremely
powerful, and UNIQUE to human beings.

(As an animal)

**************************
SO HERE'S HOW YOU USE THAT
IN YOUR DAY TO DAY LIFE:
**************************

When you make other people feel special
or important, you'll automatically
become "that guy", to THEM.

And they'll LOVE having you around.

Even if you start out as a stranger,
and ESPECIALLY if she's a woman who
you're attracted to.

Because women love to be adored, wanted
and feel as special, intelligent and
beautiful as other people.

Most men simply go about it the WRONG
way:

************************************
HOW BEING AN AMAZING LISTENER WILL
TURN HER ON AND WIN YOU MORE FRIENDS
EVERY TIME:
************************************

You want to make her feel special.

And you don't want to talk a lot,
or flatter her with insincere
compliments.

So what do you do? SIMPLE:

You listen. And you listen your
ASS off.

Talk enough to find out what she's
passionate about.

(HINT: Ask her questions, like
"What are you passionate about?"
Sneaky, huh? ;-)

Then be actually interested.

This is the EASY part, if you
follow these two simple steps:

1) STOP THINKING ABOUT WHAT TO
SAY NEXT

I've done it.

You've done it.

We've all done it.

You've been talking to a girl,
worried about what funny, witty
or interesting thing you were
going to say next, in order
to impress her.

Thing is, while you were thinking,
she was talking.

And she was MUCH more interested
in what SHE was saying - Than
what YOU wanted to say next.

That's also simply human nature.

So instead of thinking about what
to say next, just listen. Agree
with what she's saying.

And next time you feel tempted
to cut in or interrupt, take
another second or two to let
her blow off her steam.

She'll feel like she EXPRESSED
a bunch, and like she's now
INVESTED in your conversation.

Which means she'll stay with you
longer, and be much, MUCH more
interested in what YOU have to
say when you finally speak.

2) FIND OUT WHAT MAKES HER UNIQUE

And this is something I talk about
ad nauseum in The Attraction Code.

(Which you should have as your
"meet women bible" by now, and
you can check it out here:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php)

Because she's different than ANY
other woman you've ever met.

She has different wants, needs,
frustrations, desires...

... And even day to day, she's
either looking for a healthy
relationship or a one-night
stand.

But if you're doing all the talking,
she can't TELL you what she wants.

So let her talk.

And FIND OUT what she likes to talk
about.

Ask questions about things you're
interested in.

For example: Just last night I met a
girl in a bar, and she was a REAL
"motorcycle girl"

She LOVED guys with bikes, and said
she's dated men just for their
machines.

So I asked her:

"Is it the motorcycle that turns you
on? Or is it the freedom of the open
road?"

Because I was curious.

And it turns out, I was WAY off base.

In fact, she liked guys with motorcycles
because she LOVES the machine, but is
afraid of killing herself if she
drives her own.

So she likes men who can provide safety
on her favorite type of ride.

I would've never known that if I
didn't ask her about it.

And it was IMMEDIATELY after that
second of chit-chat that she got
scooped up by her friends.

And I got her phone number.

With one simple question. Not even
20 words. And ten or fifteen minutes
of easy listening to a beautiful
woman.

******************************
HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO SEEMING
LIKE AN AMAZING LISTENER AND
CAPTIVATING CONVERSATIONALIST:
******************************

Hell, because some nights you just
don't care what she's saying.

(You just want to look like you
do)

So here are two quick things to
remember about people, that will
AUTOMATICALLY make them like you,
seconds after they meet you.

A) ALWAYS REMEMBER HIS / HER NAME

Or at least try your best.

Because your name is the most important
thing you own.

Way back to Roman days, men would
scribble their names on walls. Simply
saying "Troy was here"

Today, if you hand someone a pen and
a piece of paper, there's a 94% chance
he's going to jot down his own name.

And in the future, there's still going
to be more graffiti and vandalism involving
people's "names" or "aliases" than the
police could ever HOPE to clean up.

So if you use someone's name, and
before you leave say a simple:

"Hey John, it was great to meet you"

... You've automatically left an
insane first impression.

(This works JUST as well with girls
as it does with guys)

B) REMEMBER THESE THREE TRICKS FOR
INSTANT LISTENING:

1) Tilt your head, slightly.

Imagine that you're curious about
what they're saying, and you'll
either quickly BECOME curious
or your body will shift itself
to LOOK like you are.

2) Be an ACTIVE listener

This means SAY stuff.

But just one or two words at
a time.

This is where the "without much talking"
part of my promise comes from.

Because a simple "Oh yeah?" "Really?"
"What was that like?" and "No way!"
can push a girl into opening
up her entire life to you.

Which makes her TRUST you,
completely.

Which makes her feel SAFE
around you.

And which makes going home with
her that night - or soon thereafter -
EASY

3) Smile

You don't smile enough.

Period.

People like happy people, like we
said above.

And smiling both makes you LOOK
happy, and will eventually MAKE
you happy inside.

So smile.

Be happy.

And USE these awesome listening tricks
in your daily life with women.

Now, if you REALLY want to impress her...
Or you're worried what will happen when
you hit a 'dead spot' in the conversation...

... Then I highly recommend you watch
Conversation CURE. It's a one-of-a-kind
toolkit jam packed with everything you
could ever need to fascinate a woman
with your every word.

(And it answers technical questions about
male-female chit-chat you probably haven't
even THOUGHT of, yet. So you'll be prepared
for situations YEARS before they come up)

PLUS - You can try it out for yourself,
today, and only keep it if it WORKS
for you.

So read all the details, and decide
if it's right for you:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

If it's not, or it seems like too big
of a commitment for right now, I highly
recommend checking out The Red Pill
package, because it's smaller...

... But very mighty...

... And it builds your self-confidence
even the first listen through, without
ever "needing" you to WORK or STRAIN
at all.

(No visualization or 'practice' necessary)

And you can tell ME how much YOU think
it's worth, at the link below:

http://www.GetTheRedPill.com

AND FOR TOMORROW, HERE'S WHAT TO
REMEMBER:

1) Listen to women, learn their
names and ASK HONEST QUESTIONS

2) Meet people you don't know
by talking about THEM, not you

3) Smile when you meet people
from now on... Even if it feels
weird at first.

You may feel awkward for a day.

But I promise that will all vanish
as if it was a dream the SECOND you
see women reacting to you differently.

(And that will happen almost instantly)

How To Seduce Her In 10 Minutes

Anonymous — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 22:22:26 CDT

Because isn't that every man's
fantasy?

If it's yours, in this email,
I'm going to share my favorite
tips for turning her on SECONDS
after you two meet.

I'll also teach you how to touch
her ELBOW, so she's MUCH more
ready for sex.

And if sleeping with a woman only
10 minutes after you meet her isn't
what you're looking for... You're
STILL in luck.

Because also in this email, I'll
share a technique for turning her
on with your words.

So by the time you bring her home
(whether it's minutes, hours, days
or months later) she's BEGGING
for you to rip her clothes off.

It's all inside this email,
and it's also all from the
Dominant Sexual Power program.

So if you LIKE these techniques -
You'll fall in LOVE with DSP.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And now, onto the good stuff...

***QUESTION FROM A READER***
"Vin, I LOVED The Attraction Code.
It's changed the entire way I talk
to and date women and meeting girls
has never been easier or more stress
free.

In fact, just the other day I talked
to the cute girl at the counter of
the deli down the road. Who I normally
don't have the courage to talk to!

So thanks a bunch for your great
advice but I have another question.

You talk about "Sensual Languaging"
and dirty talk quite a few times in
both your emails and The Code.

I was wondering if you could explain
a little more about it and give me
some examples of how to use it?

I REALLY want to meet this girl!
Thanks for everything.

- Jeff P., Toledo OH"

>>> Hey Jeff,

Thanks for the kind words about
The Attraction Code, and I'm
excited for you!

Talking to strangers is a SCARY,
but POWERFUL way to make your life
easier, more fun and more EXCITING
in general.

So you chatting up the local deli
clerk may seem like a small step
forward, when it really is a giant
leap in the right direction.

Awesome job :-)

Now, onto your question...

"Sensual Languaging" and dirty talk
are NOT one and the same.

In fact, they're different as night
and day.

If you want to know more about dirty
talk, and how to turn a woman on
WHILE you're naked with her,
I highly recommend my friend
Dan Rose's book "The Sex God
Method"

You won't find a better - although
QUITE explicit - Guide to making
love ANYWHERE. It really is THAT
powerful.

**AND IF YOU WANT TO TURN A GIRL ON,
USING ONLY YOUR WORDS...**

Well, THAT's called "Sensual Languaging",
and I'll explain it to you, right now:

"Sensual Languaging" is my fancy phrase
that means "Talking to her in a way that
turns her on"

It usually involves the tone of your
voice, and a lot of sexual innuendo.

(You know, when you SAY one thing,
but MEAN something else... Like
"Look baby, you're dripping wet")

So now you know what Sensual Languaging
IS. Here are the basics of how to use
it:

1) RELAX, Relax, Relax

Surprisingly, you're probably EXCELLENT
at thinking of innuendo and double-entendres
NATURALLY.

Most men are, when they get around a woman.

Fact is, you get nervous and don't let your
mind wander enough to FIND them.

Or you think one up, and get too nervous to
SAY it.

So relax. And let it out.

Worst case scenario? She calls you out and
you laugh at how that sounded.

(Which NEVER happens)

And when you get it right, she INSTANTLY
starts to see you sexually.

So risk -v- reward on this technique is
VERY high

2) USE YOUR WORDS

Use emotionally-charged "Picture Words"
when you're talking to her, alone.

Things like:

* Wet
* Slippery
* Thrust
* Tight
* Dripping

And HUNDREDS of others.

Just 'sub' them into your daily
conversations, instead of their
boring alternatives.

Instantly, women will want to be around
you more and she won't know why.

It's no tricky "hypnosis" stuff.

Simply: We liked to be around people
who make us feel good, and sexual.

And these words bring up good, sexual
emotions.

So use them, and she'll want to be
around you.

(And she'll be turned on :-)

If you want a bigger list of these
"Sexual Power Words", you can look
one of two places:

Either in S-Cubed, where I rattle off
another few dozen of my fav. tiny
words that have BIG emotional value.

(You can check it out here:
http://www.GoCubeYourself.com)

Or in the Secrets Of Sexual Tension
BONUS ebook, where I list a TON
of them - In plain text and English.

Best of all, you can get this ebook
for free, when you claim your copy
of The Attraction Code, today.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

Next up...

***SUCCESS STORY***
"Hey Vin,

Just wanted to give you HUGE props for
the Sexual Selection Switch, man.

I always thought talking to women was tough
and getting her sexually interested in me
was damn near impossible.

But I used your techniques and god damnit,
Ive got a great story to share with you.

A week ago, I was out with friends at a
bar downtown and I saw this beautiful girl.
Blonde, blue eyes, well shaped and exactly
my type so I HAD to have her.

I walked over and touched her just like you
said in S-Cubed. Then I got some DIRTY
compliance from her by saying "I think
it's so cool that you dressed up to
hang out with me tonight. But you
REALLY didn't have to"

I had a little smile on my face the whole
time and she ate it up! She loved it!

I got her phone number and went on a
date with her TONIGHT. Just got back
from it and NEEDED to write you this
email!

In fact she told me she went on a date
with me (because she really doesn't date
a lot) because I seemed so sure of myself,
and she USED THAT S-CUBED LINE AS AN
EXAMPLE!!!!

Vin vin vin! Thanks so much! You've
made my life fun again!

- Ross K."

>>> Hey Ross,

I'm glad to hear it :-)

Sounds like you did everything perfectly,
and you got the girl because of it.

I'm really proud of you.

And DUH! Of course the Dirty Compliance
technique worked...

... I spent like TEN YEARS figuring it out ;-)

Anyways, A+ job Ross.

And if you need any more help, don't
hesitate to ask:

askvin@vindicarlo.com

Just some brief guidelines, if you've
never written in before:

1) Keep the praise of products and
teaching brief.

I love hearing about how good this
stuff works, and what a "genius"
I am as much as the next guy.

(Guiltily, probably a whole lot more)

But try to keep it to a few sentences
and then move on to your question
or story.

2) Try to keep your email "brief"

I put it in quotations because I love
to read these emails, so long isn't
the "kiss of death."

But I also like sharing them with
other men who don't necessarily like
reading novels.

So try to keep it to the point,
and I'll help you ASAP.

Easy as pie.

Like this one:

***SUCCESS STORY***
"I got your S-Cubed program and
in the back of my head I thought
it MUST be ********.

Because on the front it said 'Seduce
ANY woman in 2-4 hours' and I didn't
believe it at all.

Silly me.

Last night I met a girl at a friend's
house and we went back to her place
not even 15 minutes after we were
introduced.

I used a TON of S-Cubed compliance
stuff with her and it worked out
perfectly.

I've got to admit, she probably
was just 'ready to go' once I got
there but she went home with ME,
not anyone else.

And I didn't have to chat her up
or even buy her drinks at all.

So a big thanks and I'm never
doubting ANYTHING you say ever
again lol.

- Troy K., Ocoee, FL"

>>> Hey Troy,

AWESOME job!

Like you said, lots of really fast
sex sessions happen because she's
ready to go...

... However, she went home with YOU,
no one else.

And in TEN MINUTES! Amazing.

I've had girls come home with me
in as little as 15 minutes before,
and Orleans had this 'mystical'
5 minute lay one time.

But ten minutes is super impressive.

Hey, want a coaching job? ;-)

(Just remember, when you're reading this,
meeting a woman and bringing her home in
just TEN MINUTES isn't only POSSIBLE -
I've DONE it a dozen times.

So meeting the PERFECT girl for you is
practically in the bag, if you know what
you're doing.

Keep your chin up. Follow this advice.
And you'll have no trouble meeting
ANY type of girl you desire)

***QUESTION FROM A READER***
"Hey man. Got a tip for turning her
on QUICK and SNEAKY?

Thats kinda my style. Thanks.

- Kelvin"

>>> Hey Kelvin,

OK, let's do "quick and sneaky"

How's this sound?

******************************
HERE'S HOW TO TOUCH HER ELBOW
TO TURN HER ON - IN SECONDS:
******************************

Yup, the 800lb gorilla in this room
is... :-)

Here's what you need to know:

Most men SUCK at touching women.

Now, usually, this has nothing to
do with YOU.

Except you need to know it because
chances are, she's been touched ONLY
by bumbling idiots, for most of her
life.

So if you know how to touch a woman
with the right energy, finesse and
ORDER...

... You're miles ahead of any other
man, and an 'instant first choice'
in her mind.

Here's what to do:

When you first meet a girl, touch
her on the arm first.

Second, cup your hand around her elbow
and lead her someplace "quieter" to
talk (if it's loud)

Or to meet your friends, if you need
any other excuse.

This works and turns her on for
TWO main reasons:

1) You're moving her from one
place to another

So you're showing her that YOU are
the one in charge.

YOU are DOMINANT.

And YOU therefore are attractive
in her eyes.

It's very simple, subtle and it works
wonders.

(It's often the little things you
may miss that make the biggest
IMPACT on women)

2) You're escalating on her in
a SMOOTH way.

Not the quick. Jerky. And awkward
way most men touch her.

So simply because you know you need
to touch her arm and elbow before you
touch her legs, waist, face, etc...

You're already showing a confidence
and social savvy at the level of a
man she's dying to be with.

You instantly become "That Guy" who's
"smooth" with women.

And she looks at you a little different.

A little more sexually.

And a little more interested.

Now, obviously, this is just the tip
of the iceberg.

Because you can also use this touch
to make her do stuff for you,
(gain compliance) and get her
more emotionally invested in your
relationship.

PLUS - You can combine it with the
sensual languaging we talked about
above to really make her fall in love.

AND - You can even break out my SNEAKIEST
secrets: "Black Compliance" - Which I
learned from Pimps and Black Ops Agents...

... And a whole host of other techniques
that make her practically addicted to your
attention and touch.

All you need, is to know HOW.

And then TAKE ACTION with these techniques.

If you want the best of my best sexual
techniques, I highly recommend The Dominant
Sexual Power program.

In it, I reveal all - PLUS - I even guide
you through the course, PERSONALLY, for
12 whole weeks!

So you'll learn the best info out there,
and I'll personally help you master it
quickly.

And when you talk to the buxom beauty
down the road, you'll never again worry
"Does she LIKE me, like me?" Instead
you'll think to yourself "Should I take
her home NOW?... Or make her wait and
beg for it?"

You can find out more details here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you HAVE DSP, and want a complete,
well-rounded training in the fine arts
of making women work for YOU, I highly
recommend you check out S-Cubed.

It's got some of my best older ideas.
Some stuff I won't even touch with a
ten foot pole today, because it's way
too controversial.

And it really is a killer program. So
check it out, as well:

http://www.GoCubeYourself.com

BUT BEFORE YOU GO: Make sure you:

A) Use Sensual Languaging with
at least two people you meet,
tomorrow

B) Move a girl using only her
elbow - and a soft touch

C) Use the 'Dirty Compliance' line
next time you go to a bar and club

Do these three things, and this
one email ALONE will help you
turn TONS of women on.

Do You Make These Mistakes In Conversation

datingtips101 — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 20:25:58 CDT

I used to be a stumbling idiot
when it came to talking to women.

I didn't stutter... Too much...

And I didn't ALWAYS say the "wrong"
thing...

In fact, I remember ONE TIME when I
said something SERIOUSLY witty, and
everyone around me laughed...

... Except the girl I was interested
in.

She didn't HATE it, though.

That was not even ten years ago.

Boy, how time flies...

Today, I'm much 'smoother' and more
confident when I speak.

(In fact, every other day, I write
an email to YOU... So I'll let YOU
be the judge as to whether or not
I'm still as TERRIBLE as I used
to be ;-)

I've met THOUSANDS of women, from
around the world. In DOZENS of different
countries.

And today, I can walk up to 10 women
I meet on the street, and get EIGHT
or more phone numbers.

Good ones, too. Because I'll get at
least SEVEN first dates.

And - if I so choose - Even 4 or 5
new girlfriends.

Not bad for a day's work, right?
Ten years ago, I would've sold my
SOUL for the life I live, today.

And I bet any sane man would've been
right behind me, just waiting to sign
on the dotted line.

It's no secret that if you're a man
with a pulse, you'd like to be
'smoother' with women.

Maybe you'd like the COURAGE to
finally TALK to her.

Or maybe you're a funny, intelligent
guy when your friends are around...
And your mind simply "Freezes"
when you're placed in front of
a woman.

Hell, maybe you just want a few
of the RIGHT words... For a change.

Well, in that case, you're reading
the PERFECT email for you.

Because today, I'm going to show you
the TOP THREE biggest mistakes you're
probably making - When you talk to
a woman.

(or your boss... or even your
buddies!)

However, if you'd like to completely
HANDLE talking to women, once and
for all...

... I mean, cross it off the list,
and consider yourself smoother
than Shakespeare...

... Then I HIGHLY recommend claiming
YOUR copy of my Conversation CURE
program.

I'm not going to put off the goodies
and free info for much longer, though,
so I'll just let you check out the
details on your own time. Right here:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And now...

*************************************
DICARLO'S TOP 3 CONVERSATION MISTAKES
*************************************

*****************************
#1: ASKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS
*****************************

This is so common, it's become a
sit-com standard.

And it makes PERFECT sense, so don't
feel bad if you do it from time
to time.

(I'm still guilty of it, every
once in awhile)

Because you're about to meet a
BEAUTIFUL woman.

She looks great. Smells great. Feels
great.

And she's got a funny / smart side,
too.

A real keeper. The kind of girl
you introduce to your friends and
family.

So you want to get to know her,
and PROVE to her that you're
interested in her for MORE than
just her looks.

And then, you ask her questions.

She answers one.

You ask another.

Because you ALREADY know everything
there is to know about YOU... So
why hog the conversation? Right?

Makes perfect sense, logically,
until you look at it from HER
viewpoint.

She gets asked the same questions
by dozens of men, every time she
opens the door.

She's - frankly - Sick and tired
of answering them.

And every time she goes to find
out more about YOU, you either:

A) Ramble on and on and on...

(and we're going to cover that
in a second)

or

B) You flip it back on her.

So she gets bored, frustrated and
uninterested.

HERE'S THE FIX:

Ask BETTER Questions!

Be original, and ask her about
her passions in life.

And make her think "Wow, I've never
been asked that before. That's such
a good question. He must be creative
in BED, too"

(Women think like that... It's the
Ripley's Believe it or Not truth,
and it's plastered all over Cosmo
magazine)

Just make sure you avoid...

**************************
#2: TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF
**************************

TOO Much.

Let her breathe.

Let her impress YOU.

She wants to be attractive to a
guy for her wit and personality,
not just her curvy frame...

... And when you hog the conversation
you shut her up, for good!

(Again, I'm guilty of this from
time to time... I mean, look at
these emails! One sided all the
way. That's why I encourage you
to write in your questions to
askvin@vindicarlo.com. I check
em once per day. Personally.)

YES, you have to impress her.

YES, you need a way to show her
your funny, intelligent and charming
side.

And YES, you need some time to
be dominant.

However, you need a very SMALL
space to do it in.

One or two sentences at a time,
unless you're telling a story
or two.

There's an EXCELLENT chapter in
Dale Carnegie's "How To Win Friends
And Influence People" where he
talks about our need to feel
IMPORTANT.

(By the way - If you haven't
read this book... Go get it,
immediately.

My programs and dating advice
is EXCELLENT for meeting women,
and if you pair it with general
advice for being confident and
good with people...

... Well, there ain't no one
stopping you)

He says our need to feel important
is a HUGE driving emotion in
people.

And women are no different.

So by letting HER talk, and
being interested in HER, you're
subtly showing her that you
ARE interested in HER.

And that SHE is important,
to YOU.

So ask the right questions.

When it's your turn to talk,
keep it short and simple,
by saying the RIGHT words.

And finally...

********************************
#3: RUNNING OUT OF THINGS TO SAY
********************************

Your mind goes "blank"

It's happened to all of us.

I was in mid-sentence with the hottest
girl I've ever met in my life, and I
froze up.

In fact, I couldn't get another
word out.

I walked away, red faced and embarrassed
and missed out on her for good.

I bet you can think of a similar
situation in your life, because
it's MUCH more common than
you may think.

In fact, I'd risk a guess that
90% - or MORE - Men and women
have 'froze up' at one point
in their life.

So what made YOU freeze up?

And how can you stop it from
ever happening again?

Simple:

Always Have Something To Say

And that's where experience really
shines.

When you've talked to a few thousand
women, you start to have the same first
few minutes over and over again.

So you experiment with different
ways to talk to her.

"Do I ask her questions, or tell her
a funny story?"

"Should I talk about me, or get her
to brag about herself?"

"Do I give her a compliment, or should
I talk about something interesting?"

Whatever it is, once you try it a
few dozen times, you KNOW which one
works best.

And you'll never need to "scramble"
for the right words, ever again.

That's why I put together Conversation
CURE - To share the thousands of hours
I've spent talking to women, with you.

To let you "cheat" and "steal" my
experience - And the experience of
5 OTHER men who have each talked to
HUNDREDS of women.

(Including in10se - TwoTimer from
Neil Strauss' New York Times Best-Selling
Book "The Game" - Who shares a secret
hypnotic pattern proven to get girls
turned on in seconds)

You can read more details here:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And if you're not sure whether this
program will help you, let me give
you a quick run-down of what's
inside:

* You'll discover every way possible
to talk to women - Including the first
thing to say (You've never even IMAGINED
what works BEST... And it's easy as
tying your shoes)

* You'll learn HUNDREDS of "right"
questions and answers, so she'll never
throw you a 'curveball' you can't
handle (And you'll see why her
most EVIL questions actually
mean she's FALLING for you)

* You'll learn how to tell a story so
mesmerizing, she won't be able to
leave your side... Even if her
friends try to drag her away (From
a published writer who's work
would ASTONISH you, if you
knew his 'pen-name')

* You'll learn how to CHOP awkward
silences short - to mere milliseconds -
And 'recover' with her attracted to
you even STRONGER (Plus, you'll
never have to 'think' of what to
say, ever again...)

* You'll discover the 'hidden language'
she uses when you two chat, that tells
you - word for word - Exactly what she
WANTS TO HEAR... And WHEN you should
say it back to her (She'll melt like
chocolate in the palm of your hand)

* And a whole, WHOLE lot more...

Not like most TV commercials where
they go "And much much more"...

... But mean another 30 seconds of
bonus footage, teaching your dog
how to throw a horseshoe.

Conversation CURE was two FULL 8-hour
days, before we edited it down.

And even then, it's a SOLID 8 DVDs,
3 CDs and a whole stack of bonuses.

Including the one - and ONLY - Time
in10se (Published in Neil Strauss'
National Best-Seller "The Game")
DEMONSTRATES his hypnotic pattern
on a real, live girl.

Let me say that again: In10se will
show YOU how to turn a girl on in
mere SECONDS, and then SHOW you
step-by-step on a real, live woman.

(This is so powerful, he FORBADE anyone
but me from sharing it with the world,
because we're long-time friends)

Oh yeah... Almost forgot...

Everything I've mentioned you'll
learn, above, will be demonstrated
on live, beautiful women.

So you'll learn it.

You'll hear it.

And you'll SEE it done.

It's the best I can do without
going to your house, bringing
a beautiful woman and picking
her up FOR you.

Because that's how effective ANY
program has to be, before it gets
the DiCarlo Coaching seal of
approval.

If you want more information,
head here:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And no matter what - Keep those three
HUGE mistakes in mind, next time you
talk to a woman.

If you avoid them - You'll stand out
above the crowd like a shining pillar
of light, to her.

And if you make them - You're just
another grey-cloud on her dating
horizon.

3 Levels of First Impressions

datingtips101 — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 22:13:56 CDT

I reached into the email bag today,
and pulled out two questions, a
success story and a rather *weird*
letter from a reader.

In this email, I'll teach you the
3 ways to make a great first
impression.

I'll show you how to avoid COMMON
mistakes, so you don't put your
foot in your mouth the next time
you meet your future girlfriend.
(or boss)

And I'll even give you tips to
make a lasting impression on the
IMPORTANT people in your life.
(Without 'trying' any harder
than you already are)

Plus, you'll discover a few new
conversational techniques...
You'll learn how to master meeting
women QUICKER... And I'll show you
the type of touch that INSTANTLY
lets others know whether you're
a wimp - or a champ.

So, let's get started...

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"I've got a quick question.

I've been following your advice for
a few years now and my sex life has
never been better but it takes some
work to hook a girl. Know what I
mean?

Like talking to girls is easy and
once I get her interested it's all
over but making her hang on my
every word is a pain in the ass.

Vin, need your help!

- Terrell, Chicago IL"

>> Hey Terrell,

This is pretty common with guys who
get good with women.

You get to the point where talking
to women becomes easy, even FUN.

And the thought of rejection becomes
a thing of the past.

So you talk to tons of women.

You're no longer scared.

And you start to notice more refined,
subtle parts of conversation.

Like what you called "hooking" her.
I actually like to call it the
HOOK POINT, myself.

The HOOK POINT is the exact second
in the conversation where she looks
at you DIFFERENT.

Maybe her eyes light up... Maybe she
turns toward you more... For every
woman it's different, but no matter
what she does, it means the exact
same thing:

"You Now Have My Complete, Undivided
Attention"

And it's from this Hook Point that
all great seduction is done, because
she's completely interested in you
and attracted to you.

The real question is:

How Do You GET Her There?

And there are a few different answers,
my favorite of which is below.

Once you read it, you'll probably want
to raid my bag of conversational tricks
for yourself. (I'd be glad to share it!)

The best way for you to steal my tricks
is to watch Conversation CURE. I held
NOTHING back and shared everything I know
about talking to women... Breaking your
fear of approaching her... And leaving
your mental "blank" behind, for good.

So check it out:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And today, try this tip:

What's going through her mind when
she "hooks" is one simple sentence:

"Wow. This guy is DIFFERENT"

You switch from "guy at the bar" to
"Vin, the dashing, romantic, sexy
musician who's also an artist and
pro-video gamer"

(I think I embellished a little TOO
far on "pro" video gamer... Don't
you think ;-)

It's all about making yourself stand
out as an interesting PERSON.

Now, "interesting" is a whole different
topic. One I cover EXTENSIVELY in these
newsletters, so keep reading them.

So we're going to focus on making her
see you as an individual PERSON.

And here's how you do it:

When you tell her a story about your
life, include the NAME of your friend,
not just "my friend."

Preferably, you'll use the name
of a girl.

So instead of:

"My friend's a blast. We hang out together
every Saturday and play chess"

You'll say:

"My friend Jill is a blast. She comes over
every Saturday to hang out and play chess"

Yes, I made some extra changes.

(And YOU should make them in YOUR
conversations, as well)

Now, she'll notice THREE things about
that sentence:

1) Girls like you.

Jill likes you. And Jill is a girl's
name. So obviously girl's like you.

Which makes ALL women jealous.

(Jealous is a GOOD thing)

2) Girls like you... As a FRIEND.

Contrary to popular belief, this ISN'T
a bad thing.

Yes, BEING just her friend SUCKS.

But letting her know you have girl
FRIENDS is awesome because she'll
either assume:

A) You're sleeping together.

(see: "Jealousy" above)

or

B) You slept together in the
past / She's trying to sleep
with you because she's at your
place on a Saturday.

(also see: "Jealousy" above.
Awesome how that works out,
right?)

So having girl FRIENDS tells girls
you just met that you have GIRLFRIENDS.

Which rocks.

and

3) She AUTOMATICALLY tries to be
more LIKE your friend, "Jill"

Because she starts to CRAVE a place
in your life. And since she knows "Jill"
has some special quality that lets her
hang out with you...

... Well, the girl you just met will
unconsciously try to be more like Jill.

It's a human trait that college psychology,
NLP and Behavior Modification try to
abuse daily.

And it's the basis for a technique I
like to call "Shaping"

Shaping is when you take a girl - ANY
girl - And you mold her behavior into
your DREAM girl, almost overnight.

I teach it in both Conversation CURE,
and my Dominant Sexual Power program.

If you want more talking techniques,
check out Convo Cure:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

Or, if you'd rather pack on some sexual
skills, give DSP a listen:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

Either way, your dating and love life
is about to get a WHOLE lot better :-)

NEXT!

***SUCCESS STORY***

"THANKS VIN! Thanks so much!

I broke up with my wife of three years
a few months ago and living without her
has been hell to say the least.

Women didn't seem to want me and no
matter where I went I was reminded of
her. It didn't help that I have our
two daughters running around the
house everyday either.

I decided to start looking for someone
special but I don't have the time to
go out and meet girls so I set up an
account on a dating site. Turns out
most of those girls are too stuck up
to answer messages or not good looking
enough when you meet them in person.

I got sick and fed up with it when I
googled 'how to meet women' and came
up with The Attraction Code. I read
the website and thought it was too
good to be true but I figured what
the hell I'll just send it back
if I don't like it and gave it
a shot.

Best decision I've made in years.

I read it everyday and used the
techniques every time I see a
woman no matter where I was.

And after just a month I'm already
dating a cute little brunette who
really loves my kids as well.

I'm convinced that if I would've
stumbled upon The Attraction Code
a few months earlier I could've saved
my marriage.

But now I'm still happier than
I could've hoped for and it's
all thanks to you! I want to
tell EVERYONE about your techniques
and I'd even tell my son to read the
book when he got older if I had one.

No joke Vin you gave me a new lease
on life. Thanks a ton.

- Victor Q., Perth, Australia"

>> Hey Victor,

I honestly have nothing to add.

I sincerely appreciate your writing in,
and I wish you the best in your
dating and sex life.

If you ever need advice, you
know who to ask. ;-)

And I just want to let you know that,
honestly, letters like this are the
reason I STILL do what I do, ten
years running.

Thanks Victor, you made my day. :-)

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"I just got hired at a new job
and I want to make a good first
impression. HELP!

- Joe"

>> Hey Joe,

(Love Jimi Hendrix...)

Straight and to the point,
so I'll give you the same
courtesy:

Making a good first impression on
ANYONE is about three key things:

**HOW TO MAKE A GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION**
*****EYE CONTACT******

Hold it, but not too long.

Because men want you to make eye contact
so he knows you respect him. But not
long enough to challenge him.

A few seconds is good.

(Make sure you smile :-)

And women want you to make eye contact
because it shows you're a confident man.

Also, no staring, and a few seconds
is best.

(A light smile is also nice)

If you can't hold eye contact, you're
sunk on the first impression. So
practice every day by making eye
contact with a few strangers,
and follow it up with a light
smile.

A 'light' smile is the type of smile
you have when a baby niece or nephew
of yours does something cute...
But it would've been boring if
you weren't related to them.

(Or like your smile when a comedian
tells a 'set up' joke, before he
delivers the punchline)

A little lip. MAYBE a tiny teeth.
And mostly, it's in your eyes.

Which is why eye contact is so
crucial.

Almost as important is...

**HOW TO MAKE A GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION**
*****HANDSHAKE******

Your handshake.

You've probably met people with 'limp'
handshakes. (And if YOURS is a little
light, pay attention)

So you know how awkward it is to
get a 'half ass' attempt.

However, I've listened to some business
tapes where they recommend CRUSHING the
other person's hand.

I don't know where that guy got his
social skills, but I bet he's not a
favorite around the water cooler.

The BEST handshake is as follows:

Palm to palm. Vertical, not overbearing
or too submissive.

And MATCH the other person's pressure.

If they're light, squeeze light.

If they're tough, bust their fingers.

Because light shakers will appreciate
your gentle touch and hard-asses will
respect your confident grasp.

Give a good handshake to a girl you
just met... PAIRED with great eye
contact... And you're 2/3rds of
the way to an amazing first impression.

(Your boss will probably be woo'd at
this point)

So let's bring 'er home with...

**HOW TO MAKE A GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION**
*****YOUR FIRST WORDS******

The first thing you say to another person
MATTERS.

But what matters MORE is how you make
them feel.

So let's forget exact words for now,
and focus on making the other person
feel GOOD about themselves.

Say something, anything that will
give the person you're meeting a
quick "jolt" of pleasure.

So if it's your boss:

"Hey Mr. SoAndSo, lovely office you
got here. Must've taken some hard
work to climb THIS high"

And if it's a girl you just met:

"I love the way you hold yourself"

or

"You seem like you guys are having
a blast. What's the occasion?"

And here's why it works:

People Like People Who Make Them
Feel GOOD

So give HER a compliment about her
mood or her friends...

... And give HIM a compliment about
his achievements or hard-work.

It's JUST enough to peak their
interest without turning into
a suck up.

And it's the icing on the cake for
an AMAZING first impression.

Try it out, for yourself.

You'll love the results.

***LETTER FROM AN ANGRY WOMAN***

"Vin DiCarlo and Company,

I hate how youre treating women like
were some objects to be won or conquered.
You and your pig coaches should go to
hell and die because you teach guys
how to manipulate women and sneak
into our pants. Im writing on my
blog about how awful you are and
now the whole world will know.

Sincerely,

-Name Withheld, for obvious reasons-"

>> Well...

... Frankly, I'm stunned.

I've gotten some hate mail. And I
get letters every day that let me
know - gracefully - How awful I
am.

(Especially how it's EVIL for me
to have multiple girlfriends, or
teach you how to date many women
at once)

But the thing that breaks my heart
is:

She's Full Of ****.

I've never taught a single man how
to manipulate a woman. In fact,
ten years ago, I broke off from
the budding "pick up artist"
community because they were
too creepy and manipulative
for me.

Simply put, I show men - like YOU,
dear reader - How to IMPROVE your
life so women become attracted to
you AUTOMATICALLY.

So manipulating women becomes
UNNECESSARY.

In fact, I've read EVERYTHING
under the sun on meeting women,
and I laugh at most of it.

They're TRYING TOO DAMN HARD,
because meeting women is EASY
if you're the TYPE OF GUY SHE
WANTS TO DATE.

Become confident.

Become dominant.

Have an interesting life.

And there isn't a pretty girl
ALIVE who wouldn't want to date
you.

THAT I promise you.

How long will it take to get you
there? Well, I can't make any
promises there, if you're just
reading these emails or watching
my programs.

I CAN promise you'll get better
MONTHS - even YEARS - Quicker than
men who are sitting on their thumbs,
waiting to magically TRANSFORM
into a stone-cold stud.

And I CAN promise that when you
try these techniques out for
yourself, you'll be ASTONISHED
at the number and sheer QUALITY
of women you can attract - as if
out of the blue.

But the only way I can give you a
'deadline' on when it will happen
is if you sign up for a Drills
Bootcamp.

And I can give you that promise,
because at the end of three days,
you'll have unlocked the part of
you - deep down inside - That
subconsciously KNOWS how to meet
women...

... That automatically says the
right thing to ANY girl, as if
by magic...

... And the part of you that controls
your body language, so you ooze
'sexuality' the women around you
will pick up on.

So if you want to get this part of
your life handled as quick as possible,
I highly recommend checking out
Drills at the link below:

http://www.DrillsBootcamp.com

... Oh, and as far as your blog,
go for it.

I'll start one of my own, then
post a reply on mine.

Let's see who gets the last
laugh ;-)